(Closed) Registering only for cash?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m doing a honeymoon registry but also other options for more traditional guests. I think the way these people have it set up is really presumptuous and rude. Obviously I have nothing against honeymoon registries etc. because I’m doing one, but I would never just do that and discourage people from giving gifts as they see fit. Ew. I’m sorry but you really should just give them a small amount of cash via their website and call it a day. They pretty much are asking for it with their approach.

Post # 4
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You are never required to give a gift at a wedding; it is just perhaps not in the best of taste to come and not bring anything. I personally am not a fan of cash registries of any sort. If you are strapped for cash, I would pick up a nice card and pretty little picture frame or vase or something and give that at the wedding. Not everyone is comfortable giving cash.

Post # 5
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

eh, i think its ok. this day in age, everyone knows that’s what we want. and, i think most think this is the most practical gift of all. however, i know that a lot of friends parents can barely work the internet, and would NEVER dream of putting their credit card info onto a website. So, it might be good to have a few items at a store where some of the more mature, old fashioned/traditional folks can pick you up something. It all depends on your crowd.

Post # 6
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s rude.

But if they want cash, just give them a small amount.

Post # 8
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382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i don’t think alternative registries, like honeyfund, etc. are tacky by any means, but  i do think encouraging your guests to only “gift” via online cash transaction or credit cards is! it’s one thing if you set up a registry where people can give a monetary gift ‘towards’ something, like a honeymoon, special charity, etc. however, you cannot tell people *not* to give you a a physical gift! a gift is what someone else chooses for you, out of love, not dictated by what someone puts on a list. i know we all get things perhaps we didn’t register for, but that’s not the point.

here’s an interesting article that touches on the subject:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/05/21/AR2010052101659.html

Post # 10
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m with you 100% – this is my nightmare. It isn’t even about the amount. If I had to write a check (or use a CC- WTH?), the amount I would give would probably seem generous. But I would be SOOOO uncomfortable.

In this case, I would probably send them nice, modern candlesticks or a vase. I think it is presumptuous and rude to instruct gift giving.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would ignore their rude instructions, select any gift you wish to give, and bring it to the reception. If they can’t “manage” not to “lose” their gifts then that’s on them, not on you! Sheesh.

Post # 12
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2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I like the idea of sending them a picture frame or vase along with a card. Or I guess you could contribute online what you would spend on something like that (say $15-30 or something) and then just bring a card to the wedding?

I think it’s very bizarre they are making their guests abide by certain rules with gifts!

Post # 13
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

oh, think I read your post wrong. i agree 100% with you. When I was in grad school and going to 50 million weddings, I always gave someone a small gift that I put a lot of care into buying. it could have been worth $400 or $40. It was nice and thoughtful and they didn’t know how much I spent. A lot of people are in tough financial situations and this is putting them in a awkward spot. I say you buy them a present from a nice store with a gift receipt 🙂  I ony WANT cash but of course set up a registry to be fair.

Post # 14
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If I saw this for a wedding I was attending, I’d be tempted to not give them anything at all!

Of course, I could never do that, but this really bugs me. I’m totally okay with honeymoon registries, but flat-out asking for cash is just weird. I HATE giving cash. I mean, I know everyone knows how much you spend on your gift from their registry anyway, but I hate trying to come up with an amount, stuff it in an envelope so it basically says, “We like you this much.”

I’m with you on this one. I do not like this!

Post # 16
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

are they good friends? wow.

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