Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been living together for almost two years and there are very few things that we need. We decided to only register very few things and then hope that others will just bring monetary gifts. I did however see a local ad that allows you basicly to register at a bank that your guest can give on a website through paypal and then honeyfund.com which allows guests to purchase excursions or dinner on your honeymoon or allow them to put money towards your honeymoon.
I hear all the time it is rude to ask for money and I agree completely but if I just include these places on my registration list is that still rude? I don’t want to be tacky but there is really nothing we need and in this day and age I hate getting checks or cash especially since my wedding will be in a semi public area where basicly anyone walking by can crash.
Tips and other websites also appreciated.
Post # 3
I think cash registries are rude personally. I would feel uncomfortable asking for money – even in one of these alternative ways.
Register for some nicer items that you don’t want to buy yourself. We are in the same boat as you but are planning to register for things we would want a few years down the line when we buy our “real” house.
I wouldn’t assume having a small registry or no registry means people will automatically give you money. People that want to give a physical gift will – and if you have a small/no registry, they will give you something you may or may not like. My sister had a huge registry and that didn’t deter people from buying things not on the registry.
So, although we prefer money, we are playing it safe by building a decent sized registry so people will be more inclined to buy off the registry than something random we don’t want or like. People who wnat to give cash will always give cash regardless of registry options.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I think including a link to honeyfund.com or something similar would be fine on a website, but I’d also recommend a traditional registry as well because you’ll likely have guests who aren’t comfortable with cash/money gifts. Have you considered a registry at somewhere like REI or Amazon? That will give you more options.
As for the cash/checks– deal with it. Just get a nice card box, and if you’re worried about it, get a locking one, and on your way to the honeymoon stop off at the bank asap. Another option is to have an opaque box (like this: http://www.etsy.com/listing/90597013/diy-wedding-card-box-kit-to-make-your?ref=sr_gallery_6&ga_includes%5B%5D=tags&ga_search_query=wedding+card+box&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery) and have a family member empty it throughout the day and store them in your getaway vehicle to keep them safe.
Post # 5
I think it depends on the normal for your area. If honeymoon registries have become common place where you live then go for it. But if you come from somewhere thats very traditional then just register for things you like.
Post # 6
@juliette.eliza: I have already said we would have some sort of registry because there are a few things we need or want and we understand some people aren’t comfortable with cash. I do understand I have to deal with it happening but the less I have there the better thats all I am saying.