(Closed) Registries…barely touched

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I’ve never bought a gift several weeks before the wedding.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I read somewhere you have a year from the wedding to give a wedding gift.  Maybe a lot of your guests subscribe to that.  

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We had a small-ish wedding with only 75 guests and only three items were bought off of our registry. I was surprised. Most of our gifts were cash/checks, but then this is a second marriage for both of us and most of our friends are in their mid-30s so I guess that’s why cash was the popular option. We used some of the money to buy items for the house that we really want or need and stuck the rest in savings. Do we really need that $40 cheese cutting set we put on the registry? It would have been nice to get as a gift, but not something we want to spend our own money on.

We also had several guests come and not give anything, not even a card. I’m a little bummed about that because I’m trying to put together all of our cards as a keepsake so it’s a shame we won’t have a record of some of our guests being there.

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

In my experience most people give a gift at a shower, and cash at the wedding.

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Country Club

View original reply
nimhsparkly:  We got A TON of checks at the wedding, even though we had big registries. 

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Home, sweet home

My hubby and I registered at Wal-Mart but we only put about 10 cheap gifts on our list. We got two of them. We got a lot of great gifts and cash, but not really anything we asked for. We didn’t really need anything, I just set up a registry because people were asking. I guess you can just trust people to get you what they think you’d like instead of what you are wanting.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

I guess I’m one of those weird ones, but I’ve always bought something as soon as I knew about the registry so I wouldn’t end up forgetting to get one (I’ve only been to one shower, a second cousins, and didn’t get invited to the wedding). 

But at the same time, I am a price checker and if something is on there and I find it cheaper elsewhere, that’s where I get it. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

I think the biggest problem is there’s not a wedding website or information in your invitation suite about the registry. When was the last time you remembered all of the different places your friends were registered? I would plan on a lot of calls/texts the week of/before the wedding of people asking where you are registered. 

Some will send gifts (on the registry or not) after the wedding depending if they’re traveling, etc. 

My Mother-In-Law demanded that I register at some podunk store in her town that HER people would know… her people that weren’t even invited to the wedding mind you. I eventually told her it wasn’t appropriate and that wanted house gifts (we already lived together), money (to cover the wedding we were already paying for and or honeymoon/house downpayemnts for the future) or for giftcards towards our cruise (which several couples used and it was great!). 

Depending on your age and how well off your friends are they may plan to do money. I’ve always just written a check to my friends in the belief of they know where they need the money versus towards a plate they may never use. 

Post # 24
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t freak out just yet. Many people grab a wedding gift a day before or the day of the wedding! I know I sure do when I have a wedding to attend. 

**Congrats on your upcoming wedding**

 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I buy off the registry for a shower and give $ at a wedding. Most people I know don’t want lug a  wrapped gift to a wedding.

Post # 26
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I agree with people often buying the items from a registry somewhere that is cheaper. I wouldn’t stress about it at all. You will get plenty of gifts. It shouldn’t be the most important part of your wedding or your marriage.

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I am in a similar situation. Wasn’t planning on registering (been together almost 10 years) and was instructed I had to. I didn’t even expect a shower… Well, my shower is on Saturday, and until today, 3 items purchased. Just checked and now 13. Not important at all, but I was curious and everyone must be like me… Last minute shoppers! 🙂

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Same here. We didn’t  plan on registering anywhere. We bought a house last yr and we had a house warming party  so we got house gifts  then. I just had my bridal shower , which was a honeymoon shower!!! It was Costa  Rican themed (our honeymoon destination) and all the gifts were things we would take on our trip (flip flops, sunscreen  mr. And mrs. Beach towels, travel  pillows). We only created a small registry (about 60 items) because my older relatives insisted we needed one, they said if they didn’t  know what to buy they wouldn’t  come. We are at 16 days left until the big day,  0 items purchased. I’m  not worried, i myself am guilty of buying wedding gifts on my way to a wedding. 

Post # 30
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Blushing bee

I try really hard to send back the RSVP, book travel, and purchase the gift at the same time, but things happen.  I recently had a friend admit that she buys her gift *after* attending the wedding, so I wouldn’t stress

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