(Closed) Registries & Gifts?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Are you having a bridal shower? If so you will probably need a registry. You should definitely include some cheaper items though-If not, no registry needed for the wedding! If you already own two homes, maybe do something other than a shower to celebrate your engagement. 

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Post # 4
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685 posts
Busy bee

its perfectly acceptable to have a registry for a wedding even if there’s no shower.  I would limit the places you register to 2, max 3. Have a variety of price points. 

Nothing dictates that you have to have a registry. But if you Want one, go ahead. 

Post # 5
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1440 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

You can register for anything you want. I think it’s helpful for guests to have a variety of price points. (Like maybe register for individual cutlery pieces rather than one really expensive set?)

We ended up registered at 4 places and guests used all of those lists, but I was afraid it would be too many. 

Post # 6
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1253 posts
Bumble bee

I’m registered at 5 places- which I think is too many- but my guest list is global and covers about 20 states so this allows people to shop where they please!

Also, I wouldn’t register now for a 2018 wedding- most of what you have on the registry won’t even be available then! I’d hold off until at least next summer/ fall

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

wondering where you live?  In my area cash gifts aren’t the norm so I did a registry.  I think two places are enough but you could use Zola or blueprintregistry.com where you basically can link gift ideas from any website.  I think you are going to risk coming off as overly greedy if you have been together a decade, own two homes and then put a ton of restrictions on gifts.  I get wanting gifts 😉 I’m 35, first and only marriage and I dont see why when it comes to weddings people start talking about only gifting what people “need” instead of “want”.  But rather than list out all of your restrictions just only register for things that foot the bill, hopefully you can come up with a mix of price points.  Don’t include too many pricey things but personally I was surprised when my fmil bought up $1000 in gifts and family members went in on $200-$300 worth of gifts in a couple of instances.  

Post # 8
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8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

If you use Zola.com you can make things “group gifts”.. so you can put that $1,000 item and let people donate what they like towards it.

A good rule of thumb to avoid looking greedy is to avoid being greedy.  Think of your guests, first and foremost, and make sure you make it so people can spend whatever they feel comfortable with without feeling like you expect them to spend $250+.  Achieving that is as simple as making sure there are plenty of inexpensive and moderately priced gifts for them to choose from.

Also, if you want cash you can keep your registry very small–most people understand what that means.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Adding expensive things is fine, as long as the lower price points are well covered too. 

As for how many regiatries, we plan on 3. Amazon, Bed Bath and Beyond, and one more yet to be desided – possibly somewhere more specialized in cooking supplies (we love cooking together and trying to make chef-quality food)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

We have 2 registries. We aren’t having any pre-wedding parties so the registry is strictly for the wedding itself.

I would make sure you have items at various prices so all of your guests will feel like they can get you something without breaking the bank, but I think it’s fine to have a handful of large ticket items. It all depends on your guest list, really.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It is totally fine to put expensive items on your registry as long as you have items at all price points! It also helps to “know” your guests. If you know a lot of your guests may not be able to afford expensive items, make sure you have an abundance of low price point items. If you know some of your guests may buy more expensive items, you can add a couple more to your registry to give them options. You are also 100% fine to have a registry if you aren’t having any pre-wedding parties. We had 3 registries, Macy’s (contained 95% of our items), Bed Bath & Beyond (I don’t like BBB but we knew some guests really liked shopping there (especially my inlaws) so we put ~10 items on there), and Amazon, which had a just a few more expensive items we wanted that weren’t at either store.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You’re an ethical vegan and you want something Amish made? That’s hilarious. Amish produce the most puppy mill/pet store animals in this country and use every part of the animal including to make the stuff they sell in their stores. 

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