Post # 1
I’m just curious how everyone else does this. How do you tell your guests where you are registered? I’ve always been under the impression that putting where you are registered in your wedding invite is rude. We weren’t thinking about sending out Save-The-Date Cards because most of our family lives in the same area and already know about it, but I’ve been considering trying to send out electronic Save-The-Date Cards to people with e-mails. Could I include it in there? My Fiance and I have lived together for the past 4 years, so we pretty much have everything we need. We haven’t registered for anything yet (probably will this weekend), but the registry probably won’t be that big. We’ve considering making a honeymoon registry or just saying “cash donations” would be best. What is the best way to do this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
Post # 3
Registry information is usually spread by word of mouth. You can put the information on shower invites. But it’s considered poor etiquette to put it on the wedding invitation. (But you can put your registry information on your wedding website, and include your wedding website URL on your invitiations.)
I don’t think there’s really a “nice” way to say “just give us cash”.
Even if you have the basics, there’s still stuff to register for! Here’s a few ideas:
– Quality sheets (at least 300 thread count)
– New bath towels
– Good knives (Wusthof, Shun, etc.) – it really makes a huge difference when you’re cooking to have qualiity knives versus Walmart knives!
– Fun dining/entertainment stuff like a margarita machine or fondue pot
– Upgrades to any of your existing small appliances
– Frames, wall-hangings, clocks, other home-decor stuff
– Board games
Post # 4
I agree with abbyful on this topic. We included a seperate card in our Save-The-Date Cards and invitations that had our wedding website on it.
I also would not use the wording “cash donations”. That just doesn’t seem correct to me since you’re not a non-profit or something. I also agree that there is really no extremely polite way to say we want money.
Also, I agree that it has been nice to get some quality items in our house. We have lived together for 2 years, but it has been so nice to receive matching silverware, dishes, quality knives, a full corning ware set, high quality wood cutting boards, nice wine glasses, a food processor etc… For us we had everything we needed, but the upgrade has been awesome! We have donated our old items to charity so nothing is being thrown away.
Post # 5
We used an insert in our invite to direct people to the wedding website where we had our registries. We’ve both been on our own for a while now so we didn’t need a lot of things (and when we moved in together we ended up with two of everything).
I’d say register for some things you could actually use (towels, sheets, stuff for guest bedrooms) and then once your registry is complete hopefully people will just give you money. We kind of told everyone that we have everything we need but I like to have a registry so that people who like buying gifts can do so.
I’ve seen the honeymoon registries before but something about them doesn’t really sit right with me personally. I’d rather just give the couple cash and they can spend it however they like (as opposed to saying – I’m going to pay for part of your plane ticket).
Post # 6
I wouldn’t say anything, nor would I include any suggestions. People usually find out where you’re registered through your family or bridal party. If your attendants are throwing you a shower, most of your guests will figure it out that way, at least the women will. If anyone wants to know, they’ll figure it out. Don’t worry about a thing, just register for some of the things you need/want to replace and some things you’d just love to have. People love buying couples those gifts (way more than they want to buy you a rice cooker :))
Post # 7
Registry information is spread via word of mouth. Most guests know to ask your parents and attendants so they need to be given the information to relay to the guests. It’s considered rude to include information cards listing the registries anywhere in the wedding invites.
Post # 8
We are also registring? is that a word? for things for our honeymoon. Asking for cash can be tricky.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t put anything about it on the STD or invitation. If you want cash, I would have it spread by word of mouth. We had a small registry and told people that we would prefer cash or gift cards because we already had a house and were also moving across the country.
Post # 10
Thanks for the suggestions ladies! We are definitely going to register for a few “upgrades” and things that you can always use (towels, sheets, etc.). I think most of our family and friends can probably figure out that since we’ve lived together for so long we have many things already. I might look into the wedding website idea, but I feel reassured about the word of mouth. I was just thinking about past weddings that I had been to and for some reason I could not for the life of me remember how I found out where everyone was registered. Thanks again!