Post # 1
Alright, bees – let the fun times begin. We’re a few weeks away from sending Save-The-Date Cards and need to set up our registries, yay shopping! So it’s time to head to the stores, what’s your advice?
My question is, what DON’T we need to register for? I’m specifically curious about traditional gifts like china, crystal, silverware. We are not a formal type of family and also an established couple, so we already have a lot of the necessities. We’d like to upgrade in a few areas, but prefer to get cash gifts. Soooo, we’re doing the registry as a courtesy for those traditional guests. Do we go ahead and put a few place settings of china, say 4, just in case of a formal emergency? 🙂
Finally, for the married bees, any registry regrets? Did you ask for something, get it, and realize you would have rather gotten something else instead?
Post # 3
We were in the same situation. We didn’t put any formal place settings since we don’t need them and I have my parent’s set now. We registered for a few thingsbut didn’t have a shower and asked people for cash since we were moving after the wedding.
Post # 4
I haven’t had our wedding yet (obviously) but I posted the other day that I noticed our Dyson went off the registry, and I literally squealed and ran around the house. Fiance thought I was tapped until I filled him in – we have a sheltie, so now we have a countdown to the wedding..and the shower. LOL.
But I was so anti-registry..I didn’t wanna look gift-grabby, I put barely anything on it and all cheap stuff. Then I got the riot act from everyone. They said to put as much as we want on there –
because A) if people don’t wanna buy it, they won’t
B) if there’s nothing they like, they’ll give cash or gift card
C) sometimes people like ideas instead of feeling like they have to come up with one themselves
I felt super awkward putting things on there but now I’m like eh whatever – because when I had to look at someone’s registry recently, there were not that make things (small wedding) and I would have been stumped for a gift. I say that because either the “good” stuff was already purchased, or there was nothing left in my price range, or nothing left I was even interested in giving (a plunger? no thanks hehe). So throw anything on there and have fun 🙂 🙂
ETA: I went off and forgot what I meant to say. You can always return stuff for credit or cash – BBB is great with giving cash back.
Post # 5
We had great luck with our registries. Don’t think there is anything I regret putting on there. Although, I registered for some pots and pans, and changed my mind and switched it up and changed it to the better quality ones, and I’m so glad I did. Don’t be too concerned about the price. People want to buy you nice things, and this is stuff (hopefully) that’s going to last a long long time, so ask for the nicer coffee pot. Just make sure there are options in all price ranges.
Post # 6
We decided not to register. Long story, but basically A) we didn’t want our wedding to feel transactional and B) a lot of our friends are poor like us and we didn’t want anyone to feel stressed about buying stuff. We put on our wedsite: “The best gifts we could hope for are your love, good wishes, and company. No others are necessary.”
I’m so happy with this. It means whatever gifts we DO get are delightful surprises, and people have already been so creative and generous. One friend is designing and printing our invites, another is designing/making my wedding jewelry. A family friend went in with her mom to give us a night at a B&B. We have received one gift that we can’t use, but we were easily able to return it to Amazon for credit – and since you can buy practically anything on amazon, that’s almost like getting cash back! 😛
Post # 7
I would definitely NOT register for china if you don’t want it. We didn’t (we love our fiestaware, and I’m sure we’ll end up inheriting at least one set of china). We DID register for nice flatware (not silver….some stainless at $60 a setting) which has actually been nice to get. We registered for some nice Reidel glasses (we are wine people, and so good wine glasses are awesome), but no other crystal. So, I suspect you can come up with enough things that you want to placate guests who prefer to give gifts as opposed to cash. Good luck.
Post # 8
My advice is to think about your life and register for items that will be useful to you. We did not register for formal china, but we got a great everyday set of dishes and glasses that we love! We also got a great set of casual sileverware. Some of my other favorite gifts have a been a nice quality knife set, quality wine glasses and nice wooden cutting boards. Also, love our towels!
Register for things that you want and will enjoy. My only other piece of advice is register for 12 sets of dishes and silverware. It’s been great to have extras and it will be helpful down the line if anything breaks!
We registered at BBB and Crate and Barrel. Had a good experience with both of those places.