(Closed) Registry cards inside of the formal invitation, is this poor etiquette?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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1521 posts
Bumble bee

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@gelaine22:  I’m from nj and every wedding I’ve been to ppl hav done it

OP it really is up to u as u know ur guests so use ur best judgement 

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@babypearls:  I dont know what part but I’m still here and I have never ever been to a wedding that had registry info on the invites. I’ve seen it in the shower invites. I guess every social group is different…

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@EMCasey:  Most people register at a few standard places, so I just look around until I find the place, or I call the couple, say congrats, and ask for registry info.  Including registry info anywhere in the invite envelope is tasteless and implies that guests are only valuable for the gifts they give. Please don’t!

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@EMCasey: 
As I guest I don’t need reminding that I should bring a gift but I prefer to think you want my company at your party, that a gift is secondary. That registry information does remind me that you (the generic you who puts this in invitation) really are pretty concerned about getting the right gift. A gift is paramount!

I find it demanding.

 

Post # 51
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Busy bee

I know people will call high and low about it being gift grabby and bad ettiquitte and being amonstrous bridezilla who only cares for her THINGS. But really. Can we all take a step back and just look at how ridiculous it is to expect couples to sit down and make a registry of things they want, and all of us be perfectly okay that they have made a “this is the stuff I want you to buy me” list; then suddenly clutch our pearls in horror if they don’t make us quest to find it?

 

Like, everyone who is calling leaving information about your registry tacky and gift grabby follows up with how people should find your list of gifts you want people to buy you instead. So they’re clearly fine with the gift centric list. What is up with that?

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

I actually enjoy when I have the registry information – if I don’t know anyone else besides you that will be at your wedding, how am I going to hear about it through ‘word of mouth?’ I think it’s ignorant to rely on ‘word of mouth’ to know where the couple is registered.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@EMCasey:  Our invitations had Honeyfund enclosures that said something like this:

“For more information about the wedding and registry, please visit http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/blahblahblahblah

But there is no verbiage about gifting our Honeyfund, nor any verbiage about our Macy’s registry.

 

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