Post # 1
I heard that it is tacky to include a card with the places you have registered for? I have heard some people say it is, but I have viewed some suites on the bee where the card has been included.
Any and all input is appreciated!
Post # 3
I included them in my shower invitations. How else are people supposed to know where you’re registered at. I didn’t include them in our invitions. They are also on our website, which is in the invitations, so poeple can find out that way too. I don’t think it’s tacky at all.
Post # 4
We just put the information on our wedding website. We’re also doing online RSVPs though.
Post # 5
Eh, not a fan personally. I definitely don’t think they should go in invitations, shower invites maybe. However, registry info wasn’t even included on my shower invites. People simply asked the shower hosts where I Was registered or did a quick google search and figured it out. People will ask and figure it out. I’ve never had to ask someone where they were registered nor have I ever been provided with the info.
Post # 6
Technically a little registry card is an advertisement for the store you registered at. There’s got to be a better way! :}
Post # 7
I’ve yet to ever receive an invitation where the registry card WAS NOT included. If I’m not close with the wedding party or bride/groom’s family, how will I find out? I don’t think it’s tacky at all and I think it should be encouraged. Gifts are a social norm with weddings, so why make it a game to see where people are registered? Some “traditions” are so outdated. We included our BB&B card within our wedding invitation and it’s also on our wedding website.
A lot of our invited guests have thanked us for including it!
As for bridal shower invites, I’ve never receive an actual invitation for one – it was all don’t verbally, so just including it there doesn’t make sense. Plus, not all of one’s wedding guests are invited to a bridal shower.
Post # 8
Registry info can go with shower invites since a shower is a gift-giving event.
Registry info should not be included on or with wedding invites since it implies that you expect gifts – which is greedy and rude.
Registry info can go on a wedding website and the wedding website info can go on or with the wedding invites. This is ok because people would have to actively seek out your registry info by going to the website and clicking on the appropriate page. If they don’t want to see your registry, then they don’t have to. But if the registry info is on or with the invite, then everyone will see it.
Post # 9
I skipped registry cards for everything. It’s considered rude & tacky to include any mention to gifts whatsoever (even asking NOT to get gifts) on the wedding invitation itself.
It is ok, however, to include registry information on SHOWER invitations… since the point of a shower is to, well, shower the bride with gifts to prepare her for married life (or to shower an expectant mother with gifts she will need to take care of her baby). In the case of showers, I find it a teensy bit more tasteful to either include a line at the bottom “So and so is registered at Target” or better yet, spread via word of mouth what store(s) you used for registries. I don’t think it’s completely frowned upon to incude those little cards with shower invitations though, but I didn’t do it.
Post # 10
I prefer not to turn our invitations into a means of free advertising for the store. We are already helping to generate business for them by registering – that should be enough. I find those little inserts outrageously irritating.
Post # 11
Thanks all. The problem I run into is that most of our families are older and don’t really use the computer or internet. Also, I’m not sure if I’m having a shower. It has been mentioned, but it was mentioned in the same sentence as “I don’t know if I have time to throw a bridal shower for you”, but that’s another topic for another board. I know she wasn’t joking when it was being said. I would just have to see how everything goes.
*Side note* our guest’s presence, support and enjoyment of our wedding is gift enough for me. Although, any and all gifts we receive will be greatly appreciated, I don’t want it to seem like I’m hard up for gifts, but I only had a questions since I’m DIYing my invites and this is the second wedding I have ever been involved with. The first wedding’s invites had the registry cards. I just wanted to put that out there.
Thank you ladies!
Post # 12
I’m including my BB&B registry card with the invitations, not on the actual ceremony invite though. As a PP said, most of my relatives/guests are older and will not be looking at our wedding website. Gifts are normal at weddings, alot of my relatives live far away and I don’t see them very often. I doubt they’d know what to get me anyway. I don’t see it as being rude, and I doubt anyone will be offended.