Post # 1
So I had my shower today and it was so much fun! My Bridesmaid or Best Man did a great job of putting it all together and I am so greatful for what they did for me. While I was opening my presents one of the guests started giving me attitude about how I hadn’t registered for very much. My Fiance and I have lived together for 4 years and we have more then enough stuff for our house so for our wedding/shower we registered for a few things that we thought we would upgrade around the house and some other things that we have always wanted but never got around to buying. We also let everyone know that we are planning a trip to England next year (for our honeymoon) and if they want to donate to that we would greatly appreciate it. Otherwise just them coming to the wedding is more then enough for us.
Her comments really hurt my feelings and now rather then thinking about how great the shower was and how much fun I had I can’t stop thinking about this girls who was mad that our registry was so small. I am going to try and not let this bother me but I just don’t know why she had to say it :(.
Post # 3
on the bright side – she wasn’t complaining your registry was too big! She had no reason to say that, and it was kindof rude in the middle of a party, but you had a good time and that’s all that matters!
Post # 4
People generally don’t say things to be mean, so I’m sure that wasn’t her intention. It may have just been a passing thought and she probably didn’t think it through before it came out of her mouth. Showers = gift giving, so maybe she just said it because she had a hard time knowing what to buy you?
Regardless, the important thing to focus on is not one offhand remark, but rather the fact that all those people came together to shower YOU with gifts and love. It’s human nature to focus more on the bad than the good, but I’m sure the ratio of positive to negative comments made to you today was 100:1, so try to remember that!
Post # 5
Thanks Ladies! I am going to try and focus on the good things and try not to let it bother me.
Post # 6
Something very similar happened at my shower and my Fiance are in the same boat. We didn’t feel the need to register for things just for the sake of registering for more. Everyone knows we plan to buy a new entertainment system and are saving up for some other things. I think it’s fine to only register for what you need/want to upgrade! And I agree with hergreenapples – there will always be 1 negative comment out of 100 so focus on the positives! 😀