- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
We are working on setting up our wedding website and registries. I’ve had a few questions from family already about where we are registered (wedding is in September, I thought this was odd), so I would like them started before our STDs go out this month.
Fiance is currently seeking a job in NYC (we live in Texas). He will most likely accept a job and move up there within a few months. I can’t leave my job here until end of May. My BMs are choosing a date in May for my shower. We will obviously be downsizing to live in NYC, and currently have most of what we need. I brought up the idea of no registry, but my very Southern Future Mother-In-Law and MOHs mom (my mom doesn’t want to be involved) all were shocked at this. Fiance would also like to upgrade a few of our older items to something nicer/permanent.
The registry website I like most is zola.com; my favorite feature is that you can hold the gifts until you are ready to receive them. I’m really concerned about what will happen when we go down to Texas for the wedding a week before the ceremony, and then go straight to the honeymoon for a few weeks. All those boxes piled up somewhere surely will lead some going missing/stolen. I’ve used myregistry.com for another wedding, and while I didn’t like the interface, it was cool that it rounds up registries at many places, including brick and mortar stores.
When I mentioned I was going to do all online, both MOHs disagreed and suggested I do one brick and mortar store, as they want me to have presents to open at the shower.
Lastly, as we will be flying back to NYC after the wedding/honeymoon, we won’t have room to carry back any large boxes that might be brought to the wedding. I know that trying to pass along “boxless gifts” actually means that people want cash, and we DON’T. I am just worried about actual boxes of items. I suppose we could always try and pack it all together and ship it back?
I feel so weird and awkward even trying to think about all of this. I hate asking for gifts and never gave wishlists as a child. I feel ridiculous even asking this, but I don’t have very many people to ask about it who would understand. Future Mother-In-Law is great, but doesn’t get my worries.
So, what I need is:
1. What sort of online registries would you suggest?
2. Anyone deal with presents arriving around wedding time and they weren’t there to receive them?
3. How to very tactfully pass along that we wouldn’t like anything brought to the wedding?
Thank you, I apologize for the length!