(Closed) Registry Etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4951 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

If you have household items already, what about registering at Lowe’s or Home Depot?

We didn’t register anywhere. We were both married before and had our own houses, so there’s nothing we needed. 🙂

Post # 4
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

We had all the household stuff (living together for almost 5 years now) so we just registered for upgrades on stuff, new bedding, new dishes, etc.

Post # 5
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Nothing says you HAVE to register– if there aren’t things you want/need you can skip it all together. 

But, if you WANT to register, go ahead! Personally, I don’t like putting the info in the invite, because I felt like that was “telling” people to bring a gift; but this too is changing and many people do it these days. 

Post # 6
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’ve lived together for years and we still had a registry with upgrade items and decorative items. We had about 70 guests or so and if you consider the dollar value of the gifts, we received about 1/3 in registry gifts and 2/3 in envelopes. If you really only want cash, I would still do a small registry and perhaps a honeymoon registry. We had some people give us BOTH a registry gift and cash as their wedding gift to us and some people just like giving tangible items versus cash. Without a registry of some sort, you’ll run the risk of getting stuff you definitely don’t want.

I personally didn’t put registry information on the invitation but did have it on the website, which is listed on our information card in our invitation suite. We were worried people couldn’t find it but we only got three gifts that weren’t on the registry and of the three, only one was something so radically different from our registered items that we had to return it.

Post # 7
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

why not? your friends/family will probably want to buy you a gift, even if it just a housewarming. If you do not feel comfortable then just register at one place for a few things and see what happens.  You can always add more.

Post # 8
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@juliette.eliza:  Agreed.

Lots of people appreciate the registries.  And if they don’t, they won’t buy from them.  You never know, maybe knowing your situation, guests will think it’s a good idea to simply write a check.  😉

Post # 12
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@kisharose980:  It varies. We used Nearlyweds.com as we used WPD for our invitations and they had a Nearlyweds template that matched our invitations. I would definitely use one that is free becauase many are. If you would like to offer online RSVPs, then some have that feature built in. Other options: weddingwire.com and mywedding.com.

Post # 13
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really hate the thought of registries, but caved in when my sister and friends insisted I have a shower (which I didn’t want either). And people started asking if/where we were registered.  We are a “mature” couple, have 4 homes between us and the last thing we needed was another toaster! (I am a first time bride though).

We are renovating one home which will be our home.  There are some basic items that really need replacing, and a few nice to haves.  So that’s what wound up on the registry (myregistry.com)

I also made sure that there were gifts at all price levels, and nothing outrageously priced. I also made it clear they were suggestions as to what we needed, and they didn’t have to buy the exact item.

Just don’t like registries, but they are a necessary evil, I suppose.

A gift is what someone chooses to give you, and you should be grateful for whatever you receive.  I don’t expect anything, but I know I’ll be getting quite a few things (some have been delivered to my house already for the shower on Saturday). I just want the people I care about to help us celebrate our day. A lot of them are going to a great expense just to come to the wedding, and that is more than I’d expect from anyone.




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