Post # 1
I’m pretty newly engaged and although I would like to have a non-traditonal, smallish (96 guests) wedding, it’s nearly impossible to do it in New York for under 10k. I was thinking a wedding at a park nearby and then a reception at our apt (it’s a pretty big loft), but I just feel that with that type of wedding, it may not even be worth it for my extended family to fly across country just for a wedding in the park and a reception at my house. Therefore, I think we are just going to have a city hall wedding and a big party at home for our local friends and family. With that being said, is it tacky to have a registry since I am technically eloping? Be honest! Thank you.
Post # 3
@mybelle84: since you are having a party i feel like the people coming may want to bring you a gift… but i would not register. normally people buy you a gift when they attend your wedding, but if you register then aunts/uncles/cousins who live far away will feel like they need to get you a gift and that isn’t fair.
my sister and her husband eloped and when they told everyone they got married and were having a party at their home it offended a lot of my family. I was hurt that they would get married without telling us, and it was kind of annoying that they did that and still expected presents
Post # 4
Not tacky at all, in my opinion. People will want to get you a gift so it will be nice to have a registy for them to look at.
Post # 5
I am doing a similar thing – destination wedding for 2 and then party at home. I did a small registry (this information will not be included with invitations or anything) but is there should someone want to buy a gift. I wasn’t planning on it, but got a lot of questions about one from friends and family about where I was registered so figured I might as well. I don’t expect anyone to buy me a gift, but if they want to, the registry is there for them.
Post # 6
I don’t think registering is ever tacky.
It’s only tacky if you demand people get you things or something 😉