(Closed) Registry Etiquette ~

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think putting it on your website is fine, and won’t be looked as greedy. I’ll be putting ours on our website.

Post # 4
Member
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m putting mine on my website, but only because Fiance insists. I think word of mouth is better, he gets upset about people trying to find the information, about the need to harass our parents if we don’t post it, and rants about what else the point of a wedding website is but to answer questions like this. So I’m putting it on the site.

Post # 5
Member
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We are also putting ours on our website. I hope it’s not rude – I realize many guests like to know this but a lot of our guests don’t know our parents and wouldn’t know who to ask. I’m going to watch this thread to see what others say.

Post # 6
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have never seen a wedding website without registry information, so I think it’s fine.

Quick googling shows that etiquette mavens think it is fine as long as it is not on the FRONT page of the wedding website.

Post # 7
Member
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Every wedding website I’ve seen had registry info. I think it’s totally fine. 

Post # 8
Member
10589 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve heard as long as they have to click somewhere to (knowingly) get to it, then it’s similar if they had asked where you are registered.

 

Post # 9
Member
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@makemake:  Martha says putting the info on the site is fine, but that it needs to be one of the last pages on the site.

Post # 10
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4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@makemake:  I put registry info on our website… but I don’t think a lot of people have used our website that I spent so much time on :/

Post # 11
Member
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We also put a link on our invitations and registry information on our website.  My Mother-In-Law, Queen of All Things Proper, didn’t disapprove so I am going to go ahead and assume Emily Post wouldn’t protest either 🙂

Post # 12
Member
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was concerned about this too and asked my most etiquette-conscious and judgey friend, and she said registry on the website is fine, as long as it isn’t on the first page or splashed all over.

Post # 13
Member
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mchitt329:  Same here. : I’ve had people asking me questions every time they see me, and I’m like, “IT’S ON THE FCKING WEBSITE!” Some people I forgive, like those who just don’t use the computer/internet, but we have a very tech-savvy friend who’s asked me several questions after stating that our STD is on his fridge. Considering we don’t really see one another that much, wouldn’t it just be easier to check the website that’s ON OUR STD?!

Post # 14
Member
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@vorpalette:  I know!  My mom said she got asked about parking by a few people and I said you can respond with “www.lastnamefirstname/ourwedding.com” because I dedicated A WHOLE DAMN PAGE TO IT!!!!!!

I just updated it with 2 weekend events I thought people might enjoy if they come into town before the wedding… IDK why… no one will look at it!

Le sigh.

Post # 15
Member
11419 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

When I created my wedding website at thetknot.com, I was absolutely horrified that the software automatically sought out my registry information and linked it to our wedding website. I was so upset that I actually contacted theknot.com to ask to have it removed (all the while suspecting — and being correct — that THIS is a major source of benefit to the site’s advertisers, thus resulting in my being informed that the site’s software would not support my requested action.)

When I discussed this with the etiquette experts at the high-end stationery boutique where I purchased my engraved wedding invitations, I was quite relieved to discover that it is considered to be perfectly acceptable to link your wedding registries to your website.  The reason for this is that someone proactively has to choose to seek out this information if they are to find it. For those who have no interest in your wedding registry, they never need to visit your website, click on the links, or see the information.

I also was informed that it is perfectly acceptable to list your wedding website along the bottom of your accommodations card (the card that includes the hotel information and travel directions for your guests.)

Post # 16
Member
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mchitt329:  Ugh, I spent all this time looking at hotels and getting directions, addresses, parking instructions, FAQs, etc. and it’s like, why am I even bothering?

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