Post # 1
Looking for a little guidance…
Fiance and I are in our late 20s and have been living together for a year. Our wedding will have at least 150 guests.
At first I had no idea how I’d build a registry with enough stuff for that many people, but I’m getting the hang of it. 🙂 Time to upgrade from right-out-of-college quality to grown-up quality things. Right now I haven’t set up a registry or gone shopping. I’m just making a list of items we want/need as I think of them.
Well – now our engagment party is right around the corner. I’d love for people to not bring gifts to this but I’ve got some guests begging for a registry.
I’m not sure what to do. How is this usually done?
I feel weird putting up my whole registry. I don’t want it to seem like I’m asking for all those gifts at this point in time. In fact, I don’t want to be asking for any gifts at all right now. I’m worried putting it up now would mean there’s not enough left for the actual wedding. (I’m in real trouble if someone throws me a shower, lol) Plus I just don’t have time to go shopping for all these items.
I want to register at Bed Bath & Beyond. I found they have fun wedding items that I could use to fill out the ‘engagement registry’ but I’m not sure if that would be tacky. Like, putting a guest book on the registry – that to me is clearly on the tacky side of the line. But champagne flutes or a cake cutting set? Would those be good engagement party gifts? What about cutesy stuff like a tote bag or hoodie or tank or shoes that say “Bride”? Is that bad ettiquette? Putting silly stuff like that on a registry?
We just really don’t need tons of household stuff.
Post # 3
I’d let them know where you’re registered. You can always add to the list if it gets bought out and people realize you’re not expecting everything now. It’s a wedding registry which means it will be used for the engagement party, bridal showers, and wedding. Just give them options to choose from 🙂
You can register for whatever you want. So if you want those things I’d add them to the list. I didn’t register for flutes and cake cutting sets but I don’t see why you couldn’t.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s a bad idea to put those things on your registry. My Fiance and I bought our house a year and a half ago, so over the past 2 years we’ve gotten the basics and some nice things along the way for our house, so we’re in the same boat in the sense we don’t need tons of household things…Bed Bath and Beyond def has some fun things besides sheet sets, plates, etc.
Our engagement party is in a few weeks…and we haven’t registered yet. I honestly have no idea where we’ll go. Since people aren’t sure what the gift status is for the party a lot of the time my mom put “no gifts please” on the engagement party invitations (its more of a cookout).
Post # 5
Some ideas: set up the registry and put the pre-wedding type gifts on it, then later on you can fill it up with the rest of your list.
As a guest, I would be happy to buy things like champagne flutes/wedding items as an engagement gift. I know how freakin’ expensive weddings are and if those are the things that you actually want, I’d be happy to buy them for you. I don’t think it’s tacky, I think it’s practical! Especially as it’s an engagement party, I think the cutesy stuff you want is good.
Post # 6
If guests are clamoring for a registry, I’d start it now! Just put a few favorite things on it, nothing giant because you’ve still got a long way til your wedding– some of your items will sell out and it’ll be annoying to have to keep switching things out.
Don’t worry about there being “nothing left” for the wedding. Most people may not get you a wedding gift if they get you a shower gift, or they may give cash later on. You also will surprise yourself thinking of things that could go on the registry.
Also, we put a guestbook photo frame on our registry. And flutes. People (at least old people in my family) love to give stuff like that– they get to see it used and feel like they’re actually helping you with something practical.