(Closed) Registry Etiquette Help

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What to do?
    Return the sets and replace it with the same ones, you registered for them. : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Return sets and get gift card then get better quality ones that you like. DON'T tell them. : (18 votes)
    50 %
    Return sets and get gift card then get better quality ones that you like. DO tell them. : (17 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    If your cousin is your Bridesmaid or Best Man, you must be close to her. Tell her you guys made an error in picking them and the quality didn’t represent well at all in person.. 

    Post # 4
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would return them for the ones you want. They never need to know. People exchange shower gifts all the time. Just send a thank you note thanking them for the wonderful dishes.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I agree with MissACS – I think you’re ok with returning/exchanging them & just explain to your Aunt & cousin what happened.You weren’t sure in the 1st place so it’s not your fault and you’d still be using their gift to buy 2 place settings – which was their intention anyway.

    I’d make sure you go to BB&B and check it all out for yourselves though so you’re sure you like them & it doesn’t happen again. When we went to the store there were a lot of things we liked online that we didn’t like in person.

    Post # 8
    Member
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    That’s what I mean, make it all on you. Tell her you should have researched better, but they looked so great online and  blah blah you included them in the registry.

    If she’s your Bridesmaid or Best Man and cousin, hopefully she’ll understand.

    Post # 9
    Member
    577 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    As far as I know, people exchange wedding gifts all the time!  I can’t imagine they would be offended, especially since you’re planning on exchanging them for another dinnerware set.  I would give your cuz a heads-up, something like “thanks for the plates, you’re awesome!  We totally spaced out though and registered for the wrong set, but we exchanged them for these and will think of you every time we use them!”

    Post # 10
    Member
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

    they didn’t make the product, so hopefully they won’t take it personally.  thank them properly, say that you received them and found out that they were not represented accurately, so you returned them and got another set that you love so much, and thank you again! don’t mention the “bad quality”–again, while they didn’t make the product, using that phrase might make them feel badly.

    Post # 11
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    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    Honestly, it’s the thought that counts. Your cousin and aunt wanted to get you your set of dishes, they don’t really care what kind or type of dishes they are, they just wanted to get what YOU wanted, which is why they bought them off your registry.  I would go ahead and return them for a better quality set and leave it at that.

    Post # 12
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I agree with MissACS. If it were me, I would call them up and apologize and say (after thanking them, of course), “Gosh, I’m so sorry, and this is a little awkward, but would you mind if we returned them? I know they were on our registry, but when we saw them in person, the quality was not at all what we thought it was. We’d really love to have dishes that will last a lifetime, but we felt so guilty for exchanging them because we were so excited that you chose such a great gift for us!”

    Post # 14
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    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would return them. But I think I would tell them. Like send a thank you note saying you recieved them and they were the ones you originally wanted but there is a broken piece and they weren’t exactly what you thought they were so you have to take them back are going to get a different set or something. they shouldn’t be offended and should be happy that you are getting what you want.

    Post # 16
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    5823 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think you could explain that they came broken and that made you decide on a different set.  They won’t be offended, if anything they’ll apologize for the set having arrived broken.  People buy stuff to be nice, so I’m sure they’ll be just as happy if you use the money to get another set.

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