(Closed) Registry etiquette? (Prices, to be more precise…)

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What is the "polite" upper limit of a registry item?
    $500+ -- It's your wedding, they'll understand : (3 votes)
    14 %
    $300-400...but not for too many things : (14 votes)
    67 %
    $100-200 : (4 votes)
    19 %
    Under $100 : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think it really depends on your particular group of family and friends. In some circles registering for lots of stuff upwards of $200 and maybe even up to 500 would be normal. I’d consider my family pretty average (upper middle class I’d say) and I would feel very uncomfortable putting anything that cost $500 on the registry. I think the two most expensive things on ours are our kitchenaid (250) and comforter (250). We have a handful of items around 150-200, and most stuff we tried to keep under 100 with a good portion under 40. 

    The exception I’d say is for places with completion discounts. Macys has one and we’re seriously considering putting luggage we want on our registry like 1 week before the wedding (when hopefully everyone will be done looking at our registry) so we can use the discount after the fact. 

    Once again though… it depends on your family. Lots of people have no problem with anything on the registry because obviously no one has to buy you those things. But I can say for my family specifically… they would TALK if we put stuff that expensive on there. 

    Post # 5
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    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I wouldn’t worry as much about what your “upper limit” is.  I would focus on having items in a variety of price ranges.  I don’t think it’s strange when I see registries with higher priced items on it.  But, I do find it frustrating when I see registries with only higher priced items.  As long as there are items in my price range, I’m happy!  I think it’s good to include some more expensive items because you never know if someone wants to be particularly generous or if a group wants to go in on a gift!

    Post # 6
    Member
    875 posts
    Busy bee

    I think that you can register for some expensive things so that if a family group wants to go together to buy it… they will know what you want.  I think that having a range of items gives people with different salaries different options.  Your great aunt on a fixed budget might be spending a large percent of her mad money to buy you a piece of china, while your great uncle who made a millon last year might think it was nothing to buy you a washer and dryer. 

    Post # 8
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think it’s fine to have a few really expensive items on the list, that maybe your parents, grandparents, or a group of guests might buy. We tried to keep most of our items in the $30-$100 range but have some less than that (shower gifts and for people that might want to buy a few cheaper items) and just a few above that.

    It does also depend on your family and friends though. I wouldn’t feel comfortable registering to more than a few expensive items, but I know other people who hardly registered for anything less than $100…people in their circle just have more money than people in mine.

    Post # 9
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    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    As long as you have an abundance of nice options in the lower and middle price ranges, don’t worry about registering for a couple of dream items. If a significant portion of your registry were above the $200-300 range, then you might start to worry about the impression you’d be making on your guests. I really feel, though, that you should not feel greedy just because you ask for one or two very expensive items. You never know what might go on a steep sale, for one thing. For another thing, you never know who might feel an unpredictable compulsion to be extremely generous to you. Finally, many registries offer a discount to you after the wedding on any items yet to be purchased, and some people might just assume you’ve registered for it so that you can buy it for yourself more affordably.Personally, I don’t get a skeezy feeling when viewing a registry unless there is a surprisingly hefty number of unnecessary and very expensive items. (Like, registering for multiples of something that costs $$$ and is of dubious necessity, like if you register for a dozen solid gold oyster forks or something).

    I think registering later is better than registering early, as long as you have your registry set up before your first shower and/or engagement party, so that guests at those events will know what to purchase for you. If you register very early, you’ll spend a lot of time updating your registry as things are rotated into and out of stock.

    Post # 11
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    682 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Do you think anyone would want to go in as a group and buy you a gift? If so, then it would be fine to have a few high ticket items on your list. 

    Also, I only received 3 of my china place settings (We registered for the Kate Spade Sonora Knot which is like $129 a setting) but I was able to catch a really good sale at Macy’s where I was able to return what I had and re-buy them at buy one get one free. Then with gift cards I was able to get another one so I have a set of china for 8 and didn’t pay anything out of pocket. So basically just keep your eye out for sales and you could get some really good deals at Macy’s.

    Oh and one more thing, you don’t necessarily have to register for items to get the completion discount. If you work with a bridal consultant they will usually give you the discount on home items you didn’t register for. (I used to work at Macy’s, they are usually pretty generous when it comes to the bridal registry!)

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