(Closed) Registry for couple with an established home… acceptable or off-putting?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 61
1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I dont find it off-putting but I know alot of people who do.  I was told by my aunt that I shouldnt even have a shower because my Darling Husband & I lived together before the shower. But as other Bee’s said – all the stuff in our house was old hand me downs that he got from his relatives or things I bought for cheap.  I loved getting new items for our wedding because it really feels like it is ours.

Now we are friends with a couple who recently bought a house together.  And they have had or continue buying quality home items.  I always tell them to stop buying things and get engaged so they can have a shower and get the stuff as presents.  My friends responses were “we are going to register for all the things we really want – not things we need.  Like a popcorn machine and art work!” 

To each their own.


Post # 62
4037 posts
Honey bee

Guests have a choice : 1. Buy something off the registry. 2. Don’t buy anything on the registry. 3. Buy something you like or think they’ll like (and I’ll bet you it ends up being returned, re-gifted, or in the charity box). 4. Give cash/check/gift card, so they can buy what they want or need 5. Call the etiquette police on them and 6. Get so offended, because they have a registry or have co-habitated, or have the nerve to want nice things for their home that you don’t attend the shower or wedding, thereby eliminating the whole gift buying issue.    In the whole scheme of life, does it matter?

Post # 63
2514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Aquaria:  You can’t win with registries, really.  People get annoyed if you don’t have them and others think your gift grabby if you do.  

Also – we get a completion discount to use on anything on our registry for the year after the wedding and its on top of sale/clearance prices.  So there are things on our registry we wouldn’t expect our guests to buy for us ever.  But we will use the completion discount to buy it ourselves later, so it had to go on the registry.

Post # 64
48 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

My fiancé and I registered.  We are in our mid 40s. I felt awkward registering but people kept asking if we registered anywhere.  We didn’t register for anything over $100. But I think it will be nice to have things we picked out together.  It is tough when you get married at an older age. 


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