(Closed) registry for elopement?

posted 8 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@busterbluth: There’s nothing wrong with registering.  Your friend will only look gift grabby if she gives her registry information to people who haven’t asked for it. 

As long as she doesn’t advertise it and only shares the information only with people who specifically ask her if/where she’s registered…she’s fine.

Post # 4
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah I think it would be gift grabby to advertise the registry to everyone but if people ask, I guess it’s fine.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

we eloped and we didnt register – i wouldnt to be honest (although i like registries)

when we returned there were a few cards and 2 gifts – thank you notes promptly sent.  about a month or so later we had a big cartered tented party and we did receive some gifts but not too many (again i didnt register because i wasnt expecting any)

as she is eloping, if it was my friend i would send a congrats card but i wouldnt send a gift unless she had a follow up reception/party and i was invited

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m with your husband on this one. I know people will want to give gifts, but it seems a little off to have a registry in this situation.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@lisa105: I agree that it could be okay as long as she doesn’t go around telling people where she registered.

We eloped, and we did not register anywhere. We didn’t even think about it.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re eloping; and we’re having a tented party 2 months later to celebrate with friends & family.  I plan on registering hadn’t actually thought anything of it.  When we had our engagement party 2 years ago (before we decided to elope) we didn’t register and everyone kept asking us where we were registered so they could give us gifts.  I figure when we have the party after we get back people will probably want to come w/gifts.  I’m not saying they HAVE to; but having the registry available to them in case they ask in my opinion is just helpful.  I won’t include any registry information on the invite to the party; and i will only tell people where we registered in case they ask or maybe ask my Mom or sister.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m not sure about a registry if you’re eloping.  I figured people bought gifts when they were invited to the wedding and either came, or declined (in the latter, I wouldn’t expect a gift.)  A registry in the case of elopment would almost be like advertising your registry for people that weren’t invited to your wedding, you know? 

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We eloped and we did not register.  We didn’t even put our return address on the annoucements because we did not want people to send us gifts.  I think it’s extremely tacky because we didn’t invite anyone to the wedding and it was a total surprise. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

i think when you do announcements only, dont expect gifts.

however, if AFTER you are married and you do an at-home reception, small dinner, bbq, whatever, then it’s okay to share the registry by word of mouth.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Traditionally gifts are sent because the giver wants to wish the couple well, and not as compensation for the cost of the wedding/reception. So if a registry is appropriate in the context of a big wedding I don’t see why it shouldn’t be OK for an elopement. In both cases it should be word of mouth only, only given out to those who ask.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am eloping this April at Sandals. They have a registry for their weddingmoons, and  we have registered. We put extra tours and activities ppl can contribute to if they want to give a gift. We will list the registry info on my bridal shower invites only, and by word of mouth. I only did it because I know ppl WANT to give gifts, regardless if they are invited to our wedding or not. I was apprehensive at first, but we keep getting asked where we are registered by our fam and friends. When ppl find out you are getting married they want to give you gifts because they are happy for you, NOT beacuse it is expected. I do not find it tacky. I know if the tables were turned I would want to know registry info to give gifts, and would give whether it was a traditional wedding or elopement.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think registering is helpful because some people will probably want to give her gifts regardless so she might as well lead them in the right direction!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

She could set one up, but just tno advertise it anywhere.  I was told that some people will wnt to give you a gift even if they weren’t invited to a wedding.  A registry can at least show what taste in items you have, even if they don’t get something from the registry.

People could even just google their names and find a registry if they wanted to give a gift.

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