(Closed) Registry Guilt…

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t feel so guilty if I were you. Guests know how much these items cost. If they didn’t want to gift you, they wouldn’t. Also they always have the option of lesser expensive items or merely giving you cash. Be happy you guys are so loved!

Post # 4
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1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Be excited! You gave them options and they chose what to buy you—enjoy it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Some of my parents’ friends who I barely know have gotten us some of the biggest ticket items–I feel awful! I just cannot believe the generosity of some of these people when they really don’t even know me.  I’m trying to assuage guilt by writing really nice thank you notes lol.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@eagle:  Yes!! I totally have/had registry guilt. The second item purchased was our kitchenaid & I was shocked!! We also got a way overpriced knick knack that I don’t even know why I registered for, because I know it would be cheaper at TJMaxx, but I love it!! lol

Post # 8
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I understand…we didn’t do a registry, but one of my close family friends gave us a $500 check and a really nice dutch oven. I never dreamed anyone would give us so much. Obviously, I was deeply touched and grateful, but I also felt a bit guilty!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I don’t think you should feel guilty, Miss E! Especially if you included a range of registry items at various price points so that people had lots of options. If people are buying you more expensive items, then they’ve decided that they’re OK with spending that amount of money on a gift for you. And that’s nothing to feel guilty about! It’s exciting!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I felt guilty too. I mean I put it on the registry so that after the wedding I could get 10% off when I purchased it. But it turns out a lot of people go in on gifts together. I felt so bad that our mixer was purchased but DH’s 6 aunts went in on it so it didn’t seem so bad

Post # 12
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ll add that the Hotel Collection towels ROCK. We had originally put the less expensive HC ones on the registry, but realized we preferred some of the colors in the Deluxe line. They are so incredibly soft and thick, and so far have been washing and drying beautifully. Thank your friends and family profusely when you receive them, and use them in good health!

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t feel guilty either. The option to get the little, inexpensive stuff was there; it is their choice to not buy that. Personally, we don’t like buying the little, inexpensive stuff either; we usually pick something bigger that we think they will keep for a long time, like an appliance or a very pricey vase.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think it is a natural thing most people feel.  My grandmother called me wanting to know why nothing on my registry was over $200 and why I took the KitchenAid mixer off.  When I told her it was a ridiculous amount of money, she told me my aunt planned to buy it.  Of course, Fiance was like, “You told her you wanted the silver one, right?”  I can totally understand the mix of excitement and guilt.  I just keep telling myself that I been to tons of weddings and baby showers and housewarmings, and now it is my turn to receive some nice gifts (yes, that sounds greedy and no, I am not editing it).  You do have a point though when you say it makes you feel better than more affluent people are buying the pricer items.  So far the people who have bought me gifts are buying within their means.  So, that makes me feel better.  We live together and have crappy, old hand me downs.  I still felt bad registering for inexpensive upgrades. 

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