Post # 1
We’re at the half-way point for doing our registry, and I am feeling a bit weird asking for things. Perhaps it’s the doom and gloom of the economic news, but I am wondering if we are asking for too many items. Many of the items on our registries are under $50, and we do have some more expensive items. There are definitely a range of prices. I’m just worried that people will look at the items on our list and feel like we are being greedy. Am I just overreacting? Should we be asking for less? Is anyone else thinking about this? I also know that just because we put something on the list, doesn’t mean that someone will buy it for us. I just have this nagging in the back of my mind.
Post # 3
Sounds good to me, people like a variety to choose from, they won’t think poorly of you.
Post # 4
One thing to think about is that some stores, like Crate & Barrel, offer you a discount (10% in their case) for any unpurhcased items from your wedding registry. That’s why some couples go ahead and register for more expensive things like furniture. Though it is unlikely that anyone would buy them a big ticket item, the couple themselves can go back and purchase the item after the wedding for a discount.
The other thing to consider is that often people go together to buy a more expensive item. Two of my friends and I pooled our money to buy a Kitchaid mixer for a friend who had registered for it. None of us could have spent over $300 for this item alone, but going together it worked. So don’t feel that every item on your list has to be what one person would reasonably spend – lots of times people haappily go together to to buy something more expensive.
Post # 5
Providing variety is a great thing to do on a registry. Some of your guests may be able to afford some of those larger ticket items (or chip in together like Surgie suggested), but having a great mix of items in different price points allows your guest to figure out how much they want to spend. From several of the gifts I’ve received, I have also gotten a little something with it from the lower end of my registry (ex. cookbook and mixing cups).
Also, with so many retailers having such great sales recently, many of my high ticket items have been reduced by up to 60% in some cases, making them more affordable than they once were.
Post # 6
I think people expect you to register and expect you to put items on there that are more expensive. I think as long as you have some items on there that are less than $100 you are good. If you register at a place like macy’s they have sales ALL the time and your guests can take advantage of that.
Post # 7
I agree with all of the above but wanted to add a personal "take" as well. I’ve been to several weddings and the only time I’ve ever questioned something on the registry was when the bride registered for bracelets & necklaces.
No one ended up buying it, and I’m not sure the after-wedding discount included jewels… That being said, it’s not as though I thought less of her, she’s my friend after all!
Post # 8
It’s good to put a few big ticket item on your list. Some people WANT to get something big. I know both my and his godparents will go overoard. Most of what i registered for I don’t expect on getting , but if they are going to buy something I’d rather it be something we like!
Post # 9
I had the same reaction!!! But in reality I don’t expect anything from my guests because of the tough economic situation (both of my brothers have been laid off!!). So register for what you want (including things you know no one can buy/afford) and then just buy them afterwards. We also registered for gift cards so that people could just put what they wanted on a gift card, and we could apply it toward the more expensive stuff. Hope this helps!
Post # 11
Also, most places that provide gift registries have guidelines you can follow that will help you. We thought we registered for way too much stuff, but it turned out that we got almost everything, and the stuff we didn’t get (our bedding) we had enough gift cards to buy ourself!
Post # 12
I don’t think it sounds greedy. I think many people realize that we all do that if for no other reason than to be able to use the registry completion discount to get those items. Plus, sometimes people like to get group gifts, so they have higher priced items to choose from that way.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
i had that same fear so we had a really small registry. then as people bought stuff off of it, we kept adding things on. i think we pretty much got everything on it because we kept it so small… even the one big ticket item – a dyson!
I was a guest at a wedding once where the bride had put so many expensive items (that cost in the $1000’s), that it did kinda turn me off. but i’m sure that’s not the case with you since you’re already being so considerate of your guests.
Post # 14
Ugh. funny story- I don’t know how you all will take it. On a related note (regarding just registries in general) I have a very cheap/frugal friend. She married in California. They moved to a different state- but we held all the bridal parties in Cali. As she was opening her gifts she mentioned she wasn’t going to be mailing any of the gifts to her home, but instead was going to return them at (either Crate and Barrel or Bed Bath and Beyond) before returning home, because then they could get the difference in money from all the exchanges since the sales tax was less in the other state.
It made me a little- whats the best way to describe: you are making money off of my purchase that you put on your registry?!
**I should actually have prefaced this by saying- she did wind up re-purchasing everything she got from her bridal showers. It’s just that because of the sales tax she managed to get like some change back during the exchange…
Post # 15
Sparkles — all I can say is Wow! That seemed really rude; she should have kept that to herself!
Post # 16
I was so paranoid about registering until people started asking "Why aren’t you registered for this?" or "I wanted to buy you xxx but it wasn’t on your registry!" that I just got sick of answering questions and registered for everything my registry guide suggested.