Post # 1
Did you include your registry info on/in your invites?
I do know that it goes against proper etiquette rules. Just curious if you included it or not.
We have pocket invites, and i have a 3rd card that i dont really need, so i was going to put it on that card. That way we dont have 200 people calling us, or our families. We are not doing a wedding website.
Post # 3
Where did you put your information about local hotels and such?
Post # 4
@Jen51287: We included our wedding website for RSVPing on our invites. Our registry info is linked on our website.
Post # 5
We dont have many coming in from out of town.
Post # 7
We did, although i’m from the UK and everyone does it. I don’t understand how people are supposed to find out about it if you don’t put it in the invite?!
Post # 8
We put our registry link on our wedding website. Registry info will be on the shower invite, and our parents will pass it along by word of mouth as well. Don’t include it on your invites- if people want to know where you’re registered, they’ll ask around.
Post # 9
Presumably you are inviting only people who you speak to on at least a semi-regular basis, so they just ask you, or your bridal party, or your family.
Also in this day and age, a really quick internet search usually finds the registry very quickly.
Post # 10
Do what you want. I am a graphic designer and before I joined this site, I had no idea it was an etiquette thing. I designed two of my friend’s invites and both of them put very simple information about registry on there. After I learned it was a “bad” thing, I apologized to both of them, and they had no idea either and they really could care less. They never heard anyone say anything against.
I say do what you want. If your family/friends aren’t the type to care about that stuff then go ahead. It’s your wedding. As long as you aren’t putting a ton of info about it I don’t think it would be a horrible idea. I guess i’m the type that just doesn’t care.
Post # 11
No, we did not, I wouldn’t have been comfortable with it – and barely anyone asked. Most people will gift you money at the wedding rather than a physical gift anyways.
Post # 12
I don’t agree with this. Depends a lot on your circle. We got more presents than checks.
Post # 13
I think that’s the exception rather than the rule though – in most circles it’s common to gift cash at the wedding. There’s been some other posts that did polls on it and it seemed like cash over gifts was the case for the overwhelmingly large majority of bees friends and family. Unless we’re talking about the wedding shower, of course, for that it’s fine to put registry info since gifts are pretty much the point.
And it definitely wouldn’t be 200 people calling regardless – people know how word of mouth works, and anyone who is comfortable using a computer can easily find your registry online. And 200 guests doesn’t equal 200 gifts anyways, I’m assuming you have couples and familes on that list who will be gifting as a group, OP.
Post # 14
I voted “other” because we don’t have a registry. We’re hoping word of mouth will inform everyone that we already have way too much stuff and can’t comfortably accomodate more! Fiance is telling everyone that we don’t want anything, including money, but I hope people won’t take that to mean that we don’t want cards. I want those for our album.
Post # 15
Wedding websites are marvelous for cutting down on paper and giving you a way of sharing your registry information without being too overt and putting it with the invitation.
Post # 16
No. It is really rude and presumptuous to imply anything about gifts in invites.