Post # 1
I know the etiquette rule is to never put any kind of registry info with the invitation, but I heard it’s ok to include your wedding website address which can have a link to your registry. I’m not disagreeing with this rule, but I’m just wondering how that’s any different etiquette-wise than just putting it along with the invites.
Post # 2
We didn’t put the wedding website on the invitation itself, but we did include a card that said “for travel information, accommodation suggestions and answers to frequently asked questions.. visit …..”
There is more information on a wedding website than just a registry.
Post # 3
To me, the difference is that someone will choose to go to your wedding website and choose to click on the registry info. If you put the registry right on the invitation, it’s more like, “You’re invited and here’s where you get us gifts!” It puts the gifts front and center, as opposed to it being something a person chooses to find.
Post # 4
Our wedding website was included on an information card, not on the invite proper. Once you are at our webpage, you have to actively hunt for the registry button, but the other information (travel, hotels, sight seeing) is right up front.
Its ok to make it easy for people to actively pursue information about your registry, it isn’t ok for you to attach that information in any way to the actual invitation. The invitation (or accompanying cards) should invclude no mention of gifts.
Post # 5
An invitation is much more direct than putting it on a website that people can voluntarily go to and either look at where you are registered or not.
Post # 6
We had online RSVPing through our website, so the main reason for directing people there was to RSVP (if they didn’t want to mail in the cards). We also had extra information about timing/local accomodations for those coming from out of town. The registry information was included at the end of a list of other things people might want to know.
Post # 7
I would also argue that in most very polite circles it is not acceptable to have it on your web page either. But I do accept that most people would not find this rude, as other posters have pointed out, they could choose to not click the registry tab.
I think it’s in the grey zone. Not expressly polite, but not fully impolite either.
Post # 8
vip0802: I agree with you on that one. This is something that baffles me greatly.
I’m from Germany and we don’t register at all. So either people just get you whatever they think (bear in mind that people don’t need “household items” as pretty much all Germans will hve lived together before getting married). Here the gift returning isn’t done. So yeah then you’re stuck with gifts you don’t like. The people giving gifts will also be much more grateful if they know they’re giving you something you like. So people do include it in the invitation (here the invitation contains more info than what I’ve seen with US invites here on the bee – the basics that would be found on your wedding websites is included on the invitation).it is VERY common to ask for money and it’s not frowned upon at all. People will usually say what they will use it for. Eg some will ask forsupport for their honeymoon or the next project with the house, etc.
we have included it as a rhyme (which I understand is just plain tacky according to WB etiquette ;)) that said that we weren’t inviting people to our wedding so we get gifts but if people do want to give us sth, we’d appreciate help with the honeymoon. Which we could and would afford anyway, but friends of our really could not have spent any buck on honeymoon and they did go to a very nice one after wishing for money, so personally I was just so happy this worked our for them and they weren’t stuck with un eves sari presents wishing they could have just taken the money to travel.
I also didn’t see any convincing argument yet why it’s ok to write the info some place other than on the invitation and share that with people or jus do it on the invitation.
I totally get the point if saying asking for presents could be considered rude. But to me the only way out is to not ask for presents then. Whether it comes on a white piece of paper or a black sheet of paper really doesn’t make any difference to me.
Just my two cents 🙂
Post # 9
People have very stern opinions on this issue.
As long as it’s not on the actual invitation, I don’t mind a tasteful little card with the information. Not everyone makes a wedding website, and you certainly shouldn’t make a site simply to “hide” the registry info on it. Where I’m from, almost everyone buys off the registry so I don’t think it’s crazy to assume they want to know where you’re registered.
Post # 10
Honestly, I just see registry info on the website as another hoop I need to jump through to find out what the couple wants, especially if they go to the effort of “hiding” it somewhere. I don’t see it as them being more etiquette minded- just that they think they’re being more etiquette minded.
Post # 11
our registry info is on our website. because i think registry cards in with the invitations is weird. that’s just me. on a shower invitation? fine. but a wedding invitation? not so much.
Post # 12
vip0802: Agreed, I think it is one of those outdated rules TBH. People are going to ask so why not make it accessable. I didn’t put mine on the invite, but I put it on the website. The website was listed on our STD and on a card in the invite.