Post # 1
I’m curious what you all think.
My shower invitations went out a couple weeks ago and I had two people call me to tell me that the host forgot to put where I was registered on my invitation as well as forget to mention my colours.
I thought it was considered tacky to include the registry information. As for the colours, most of the people who are going to be there have been in my house.
What does everyone else think?
Post # 3
Shower invitations do typically contain the registry information – and it’s perfectly fine because the invitation is being sent by someone else who is hosting the event for you. General rule is that it’s considered improper when YOU are the sender and including the gift registry details.
Post # 4
I agree that shower invitations usually include registry information since the whole point of a shower is to ‘shower’ the couple with gifts. It isn’t proper to include registry information in the invitation though.
Post # 5
MissAsB beat me to it. So, ditto what she said.
Post # 6
I think it varies family to my family. My family would be annoyed if I didn’t include info on the shower invites.
Post # 7
I agree that registry info usually does go on the shower invitation but it’s really no big deal if it didn’t. People can ask the hostess or look at your website.
I’ve never heard about the color thing. i don’t think i would want my shower hostess to include “my colors”, (not that i have any). I don’t really think this is helpful for people buying gifts. two green vases can have completely different feels and styles so the fact that it’s green is really not what makes it “go” with your home.
Post # 8
@Meowkers: I agree!!! When the person mentioned that about my colours I was really shocked because I was thinking the same thing….there are many shades of every colour under the sun, how is someone supposed to know what shade is yours…
Post # 9
It is tacky to include registry info. A gift should come from the heart. A registry is for the convience of your guest. If they want to know where you are registered they will call.
However, more and more people are including registerys in the shower invites bc the host is saying where the brides is registered, not the bride saying buy me presents, and people expect this infomation. These days less people use proper etiquette. I got an email wedding invition last month. If you do include your registry (or send out an email wedding invite) you probably wont offend anyone. I was not offended at all. But you might offend one person, like your great-aunt Bertha so it is on the safe side not to include registry info.
I agree that it also varies from family to family. Some families wont care if you dont use old school etiquette.
Post # 10
I’ve definitely heard of the colors thing… when I was younger and went to showers with my mom in the 1980’s – before people registered for much else than china! Because you didn’t have a registry to go off of, the invitation would tell you what color they were doing their kitchen, bathroom, bedroom etc. to guide you in helping to pick out linens, etc. I haven’t seen “colors” mentioned since registries became the norm. I say it’s good to include registry info but colors are completely uneccesary.
Post # 11
definately put registry info – shower = gifts (showering bride with gifts) so they are expected….
the colors arent really needed if you register… they can kinda tell that you only registered for like …. red items or something.
Post # 12
Event info and registry info. I’ve never heard of this colors stuff before, although people called my mom before the shower to ask what color my kitchen was. It turns out people like to wrap gift cards and small housewares in dishtowels, so they wanted them to match.