(Closed) Registry information with invitations

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee

This may be a sensitive subject, but I think the general rule of thumb is that you do not include registry information in an invitation.  Many people may see it as presumptuous, as it implies that you expect a gift.  While it’s reasonable that most people will bring a gift, the invitation is requesting their presence alone.  Word will probably travel pretty quickly on its own about where you’re registered – through your family, bridal party, and close friends. 

Post # 4
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Newbee

I disagree.  I run a wedding stationery business and, in the UK at least, it is acceptable to include your gift registry in the invitation.  You can word it in a nice way eg "If you wish to see a gift list, it can be found at …" so that it doesn’t sound like an obligation.  I think most people would rather buy you something that you actually want rather than a random gift you probably don’t!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’ve received invitations with and without registry information. And personally, I prefer them to be with the invitations even though I know that "etiquette" says they shouldn’t be. It makes things easier when I know where the couple has registered–I normally give a cash gift, but sometimes I check out the registry. I included the information with my invitation. But then again I am not a fan of etiquette for etiquette’s sake or tradition for tradition’s sake. I’m not going to do something a certain way JUST because it’s always been done that way.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You should include the registry information with the shower invitation but never the wedding invitation. You can also put it on your wedding website or ask friends and family to spread the word.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I agree with snmcdowell.  If people want to know where you are registered, they are not going to call you, they will call your parents, his parents, etc.  Or ask you when they see you.  Please dont put it in the invitation, your fiance is right on this one.

Post # 8
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Newbee

I agree with your Fiance.  Although I like the inserts, people think it looks like a gift grab.  Do you have a wedding website you can direct people to?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I also do not think you should include registry information. If you have a website, you could include that information & say for directions & accommodations on the invite. people will find your registry info there too. I also think that if people really want to give you a gift, they’ll ask a family memer or could search for your name online.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wedding invites… no registry info please! Shower invites… for sure!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not including registry information with my invitations but that’s because I’m a pansy who’s still afraid of her mother.  That being said, I like to be told where someone is registering whether through a shower invitation or on a website or with an insert.   I don’t think it’s tacky.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

the best way around is the wedding website!

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I think no matter how good your intentions are, registry information in the invite is kind of crass and classless.  Your old-school guests will be offended if you include it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

The H2B is right on this one.  In terms of etiquette (since you posted this in the etiquette thread) this a big no no!  What’s confusing is that the stores where you register will encourage you to put the information in your invitations, bu that’s just because THEY want all of your guests to get all the information so the registry gets used and they make their money off of you.  It sends a mixed message to some people!

Post # 15
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Worker bee

whenever I get a wedding invitation with the line "the couple is registerd at…."

in my mind… the only thing I think is…

TACKY!!!

please don’t do it!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I know lots of people think it’s fine, but I still think it’s in poor taste, especially these days when everyone knows the other places to find the registry information:  your wedding website, work of mouth, or even the stores themselves.  I just think it sends the wrong message held within the invite itself.

Yes, I know this is hypocritical:  people "are supposed to" get a gift, so why shouldn’t they have the info?  I just think it’s poor form.

We have it set up on our wedding website, along with TONS of other info, so it doesn’t seem overwhelmingly greedy. 

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