(Closed) Registry items … not up for interpretation. lol

posted 11 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@Missbliss: “And if you discover that you were regifted something like dish towels… realize that the giver may have been given an abundance of something…  (I do think it’s odd that the tags read someone else’s name… but as long as it wasn’t an old monogram or worn out/used item…  then I’d give them a little slack.”

OK, wait – you would honestly cut someone slack for re-gifting something with someone else’s name on it?!? Come on now.

Post # 18
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hope that people don’t use my registry as a guide.  Either buy me something off the registry or give me cash or a check.  We’ve lived together for several years and there are very specific things we want/need.  Seeing as we already have almost everything we need, I likely wouldn’t know what to do with a gift that wasn’t specifically off my registry.  I think it’s a waste of time and money to guess what the bride and groom might like or need.  When in doubt, write a check!

Post # 19
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@alligatress:I don’t think you’re being ungrateful at all.  You made a list of very specific things you needed, and this is the one time where people know without a doubt that you will 100% love what they got you.  It’s a no-brainer! 

My cousin just got married and her Mother-In-Law insisted on buying her a bunch of measuring cups and pans without looking at the registry.  Now she has to return the ones she registered for because she has duplicates and doesn’t want to hurt MIL’s feelings. 

P.S. I love that your Fiance said “that’s going right in the trash” hahaha

Post # 20
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

We got a cheap knock off gift for our shower, and I’ll admit that I was upset about it! We have a few really nice towel sets, and we registered for more. They’re suuuuuper plush, thick, soft, amazing towels.

My grandma, who is an incredibly thrifty woman, went out, saw the towels we registered for (she must have, considering what she got us), and then went to another store and bought the ENTIRE set we had registered for – same color, same towel sizes, everything, four bath, four hand and eight wash cloths —- but in a MUCH lower quality towel.

We weren’t looking to upgrade. We were looking to add to our existing collection, so we’d have enough towels for guests without frantically doing laundry.

I can understand if she didn’t want to buy the whole set – the towels we registered for were not cheap! But I would rather have gotten half (or a third) of the set we wanted from her, and left the rest on registry, than to get the cheap look-alikes (that don’t feel alike!) with no gift reciept.

My mom insisted I take the other towels off the registry so as not to offend Grandma, which means we’ll now end up buying them ourselves after the wedding, and shoving the others in the closet. It’s a shame when brand new towels will get relegated to cleaning rags and mopping up spills. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 21
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

LOL I love this topic.  And I love that we can talk about it on here and not sound like greedy bitches to our friends.  ๐Ÿ™‚

I love all of our shower gifts so far.  One woman got us a crock pot and it wasn’t on our registry!!

We did get some things that Mom said had to be from Costco…does Costco take returns w/o receipts?  LOL!!  Ok…not the hugest fan of those items but whatev.  If we can’t do anything with them, they’re good yard sale fodder!!  Think of it that way.  Or, once you buy a house (or if you’re already an owner) donate it and write it off!!


Post # 22
532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom pretty much flat our refused to buy us anything off of our registry. She wanted to get us stuff that other people won’t have the chance to. She bought us our cake knife for the wedding which I love, and some specialty cleaning rags. My FI’s mother also bought us whatever she felt like, but that ended up working out really well! She is a wiz in the kitchen and knows what kitchen stuff we need, and bought us stuff we didn’t put on our registry but totally needed. Broiler, cookbook, glass pie pan, and a cake carrier.

Post # 23
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My shower is on Sunday.  I really do not want anyone to interpret my registry unless they want to get me stuff from Victoria’s Secret.

Post # 25
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

My shower is on Sat, I hope they stick to our registry. We picked those things for a reason ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I was reminded of this post when I checked my registry the other day (Bed Bath and Beyond seems to like to discontinue the stuff I’ve picked – grrr – so I check it periodically to replace items) and saw that someone has purchased us a set of spatulas we didn’t register for. They have stainless steel, flat handles, and blue silicone heads.

Now I’m imagining holding a piece of flat steel in my hand, trying to scrape cake batter out of a bowl with it… and the pain that would ensue. See, I have a disability that makes my grip far from perfect, so everything I registered for was from the Oxo Good Grips line – fat, rubber handles = easy on the hands!

(We’ll just ignore the part where the blue heads don’t match anything else on the registry – all the kitchen stuff is black and green.)

So while I understand, they wanted to purchase a $10 set of three spatulas that’s “the same as” (but cheaper than) the three individual Oxo spatulas… they’re not.

There’s a really legitimate reason I registered for the things I did. Honest!

Post # 28
7 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

@alligatress:  Eeeek, this is exactly why I made an online registry!  I have my wedding wish list on MyRegistry.com so that this way my friends and family see exactly what I want, and then all they have to do to purchase it is click their mouse button.  Since I was able to add items to my wish list from any store in the world, I did thorough research to make sure that I added the items that I wanted to my wish list from the stores that had the best price ๐Ÿ™‚

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