(Closed) Registry madness

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

casually suggest they should add more things at different price points. your family is right, most of their gifts will be off-registry!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

People really like to bitch about registries–even the most appropriate ones.

I’d probably say something to your bro, just be gentle. And you might start it by saying, “You know, because things are so expensive, you’re setting yourself up for getting a lot of crap that’s off-registry OR for people to show up without a gift at all. The economy’s pretty bad right now…”

I do think that what you’ve been saying to your family is the right thing to do–it is, after all, their registry and they can put on it whatever they want, just as your family has the discretion to purchase or not purchase whatever they want.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

You might just say to your brother – “Hey, I was just looking at your registry and noticed you don’t have a real range of prices. You may want to think about adding a few lower item gifts. You can always return them for store credit to get the larger items. Just a thought.”

I think that’s about all you can say. As with your family, maybe they can all go in on a gift.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If you don’t want to confront your bro, you could suggest to your family members that they go in together on a few group gifts rather than separate gifts to make it more affordable – or they can get them gift cards they can use towards items on their registry. That does seem like a bit of an oversight on your brother’s side though.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree w/ kitzy that you should just try hinting that it’s a good idea they add different price range items. Are you in a position to be honest w/ them and just say, “We got your registry, and while there are some beautiful/great/interesting items on there, I’m concerend some of your guests may not be able to afford certain items”.

48 goblets?! What the…

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Wow, that is pretty expensive for a registry.  I would talk to your brother and tell him the truth.  But, watch the words you use.  I would say something like “Hey, I noticed there were a lot of expensive things on that registry; are you starting another one with lower prices so that people who may not be able to afford it can buy off of that one?  I’d be afraid that they’d get you something that you really don’t need that’s off the registry.”

I mean, they HAVE to know that those prices are a little extreme and that there are some people who will have a hard time affording it.  I’m sure they’ve thought about it – so if you ask it in a way where you’re inquisitive, it may have a better reaction and get him to realize it.

Good luck and I hope this doesn’t put a damper in their day.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

what does a 400 crockpot do?  I mean, does it do it’s own grocery shopping?  insane.  

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Definitely suggest to them that their prices are too high and they should add more at different price points. There are even registry guides out there that tell you how many $20 gifts, how many $50 gifts, $100 gifts, etc. so maybe you could show them one of those!?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I also think that you should say something.  I would want to know.  I would say it not in a “people are talking smack about you” sort of way, but in a “I think you need to have things at different price points” way.  There is a certain “know your audience” element to registry selections and, while they may be registering for the higher end items for completion discounts (which I get), higher end items can’t be the only things on a registry.  We had things from $10-$335 (bedding), but ensured that there was a good spread of things under each price point.  

People can be really cruel when it comes to registries.  I know that I’ve cried a couple of times about ours (although that was more about my FH’s family not liking registries period and sort of having a “who does she think she is?” attitude…I really did not want to offend them).  The point is (which you’ve made to your family) is no one is demanding that they buy the $90 goblets.  It’s a GUIDE for people looking for help when selecting gifts or so they know the couple’s china pattern. 

Judgments abound! 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

That’s craziness.  I can’t believe they even emailed it to the family.  I don’t tell anyone about mine unless they ask!

 

I laughed when I read your post because I fell in love with $90/stem crystal.  I debated over whether or not to put it on the registry, but went with a $40/stem crystal instead….just to avoid this exact family drama! 

 

Just because I’m getting married doesn’t mean I’m suddenly Ivanka Trump ๐Ÿ™‚

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