Post # 1
OK so I’m in the final stages of putting my invites together and doing last minute edits on my text.
In my invitation suite, I have an additional “info” card. On one side, it has info about our post-wedding Sunday BBQ, and on the other side it was “Details, details, details…” where I have written the info about our hotel room block, transportation info, and then at the bottom of that, I wrote: “Other fun things: A list of fun activities in Portland, where we are registered, and other bits of info are available on our wedding website: [wedding URL].”
My thought was just to make it known to people where the registry info is, without getting into all kinds of details about it. I didn’t want to make it super obvious that we were looking for gifts, but I also wanted people to know what we had on our wedding website.
But now reading WeddingBee, I’m like “gah! maybe that sucks too!” So my question is, do you think what I wrote is OK or should I change it? And if I should change it, how would you write the “other fun things” section? Any suggestions?
Post # 3
I think what you are describing is totally fine. Don’t stress!
Post # 4
Seems fine to me. There are some people that tell you that registry info shouldn’t go in the invite no matter what. I think it depends on your guests. Also, you’re not highlighting it, so I think it’s fine.
Post # 5
Go for it! Guests want as much information as possible, and they shouldn’t have to go on a scavenager hunt to find out where you are registered. I think it is helpful, and very well written!
Post # 6
Absolutely no! It appears very gift grabby! It should not be put on anything invite related.
It is tacky and guests will be offended.
Post # 7
i would put the “other fun things: a list of things in portland and other bits of info are available here” and just leave out “where we are registered”
Post # 8
yeah… what kitzy said. If guests want to bring a gift instead of cash, they will be active in finding out where you’re registered. That means checking out your website, phoning your wedding party, parents etc… whatever it takes. Just list the website, and have the registry there.
Post # 9
I think what you described is fine!
My invites had something very similar (my mom got them printed that way) and I was really worried about it at the time (see my thread here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-invites-are-going-to-be-i-have-to-say-it-tacky). Everyone assured me it would be fine and it was – we heard not one single comment with any issues regarding our invites and etiqette (quit the contrary actually – we got tons of compliments on the look of our invites and how informative they were).
Post # 10
I wouldn’t mention it on the invite at all.
Post # 11
Do not include registery info that is a huge no no on invites
Post # 12
im on the other end and did put some registry information on my directions card.
MANY of the people i invited a) lived far away, b) were over 60 and did not have/use a computer AND c) did not speak english at all or very little.
i think that this “rule” is skewed towards people who have a certain demographic coming to their wedding and everyone who was among my cultural lines has put registry information in their invite package somewhere.
Post # 13
Not hearing complaints is perhaps more a reflection of the politeness of guests then a lack of disapproval.
It is rude and I would think you horribly rude, but as far as you can tell I was pleased as punch. But really its cause I am too polite to ever mention it.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t do it, but yours doesn’t sound horrible to me.
That being said, people will be able to find out where you are registered without you annoucing it in the invite. If you are doubting your decision, take it out.
Post # 15
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
I’m actually putting on invites to specific people what the dress code will be… maybe even in big, bold print “NO JEANS.” I kid. Ok, maybe not… we have some obligatory invitees that are, er, not so bright…
Post # 16
It depends on your guests. I’ve never ever ever received a wedding invite WITHOUT registry info and if not for WB, I would never have known that it was a no-no. On the other hand, I am not American, where I grew up, folks did it all the time and brought that attitude when migrating to America. Since most of the people who attend weddings I’ve been to are not Americans (I’ve only been to one American wedding), I still don’t see the whole ‘gift grabby’ thing. But that’s just me. Sometimes I come to WB and read blanket statements and laugh. Not all of us are mainstream Americans you know. I mean, I’ve been here since I was a teenager but many folks I know still adhere to the ‘old school’ way of thinking…anyhow, to answer the OP, I don’t see anything wrong with what you wrote.