(Closed) Registry on invites – I know you’re not supposed to but…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think what you are describing is totally fine. Don’t stress!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Seems fine to me.  There are some people that tell you that registry info shouldn’t go in the invite no matter what.  I think it depends on your guests.  Also, you’re not highlighting it, so I think it’s fine.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Go for it! Guests want as much information as possible, and they shouldn’t have to go on a scavenager hunt to find out where you are registered. I think it is helpful, and very well written!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Absolutely no! It appears very gift grabby! It should not be put on anything invite related.

It is tacky and guests will be offended.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would put the “other fun things: a list of things in portland and other bits of info are available here” and just leave out “where we are registered”

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

yeah… what kitzy said.  If guests want to bring a gift instead of cash, they will be active in finding out where you’re registered.  That means checking out your website, phoning your wedding party, parents etc… whatever it takes.  Just list the website, and have the registry there.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think what you described is fine!

My invites had something very similar (my mom got them printed that way) and I was really worried about it at the time (see my thread here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-invites-are-going-to-be-i-have-to-say-it-tacky).  Everyone assured me it would be fine and it was – we heard not one single comment with any issues regarding our invites and etiqette (quit the contrary actually – we got tons of compliments on the look of our invites and how informative they were).

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I wouldn’t mention it on the invite at all.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do not include registery info that is a huge no no on invites

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

im on the other end and did put some registry information on my directions card.

MANY of the people i invited a) lived far away, b) were over 60 and did not have/use a computer AND c) did not speak english at all or very little. 

i think that this “rule” is skewed towards people who have a certain demographic coming to their wedding and everyone who was among my cultural lines has put registry information in  their invite package somewhere.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Not hearing complaints is perhaps more a reflection of the politeness of guests then a lack of disapproval.

It is rude and I would think you horribly rude, but as far as you can tell I was pleased as punch. But really its cause I am too polite to ever mention it.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t do it, but yours doesn’t sound horrible to me.

That being said, people will be able to find out where you are registered without you annoucing it in the invite.  If you are doubting your decision, take it out.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.

I’m actually putting on invites to specific people what the dress code will be… maybe even in big, bold print “NO JEANS.”  I kid.  Ok, maybe not… we have some obligatory invitees that are, er, not so bright…

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

It depends on your guests. I’ve never ever ever received a wedding invite WITHOUT registry info and if not for WB, I would never have known that it was a no-no. On the other hand, I am not American, where I grew up, folks did it all the time and brought that attitude when migrating to America. Since most of the people who attend weddings I’ve been to are not Americans (I’ve only been to one American wedding), I still don’t see the whole ‘gift grabby’ thing. But that’s just me. Sometimes I come to WB and read blanket statements and laugh. Not all of us are mainstream Americans you know. I mean, I’ve been here since I was a teenager but many folks I know still adhere to the ‘old school’ way of thinking…anyhow, to answer the OP, I don’t see anything wrong with what you wrote.

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