Post # 1
my other post should have been here…oops
first, i will give you a little background on FH and myself.
we do not live together and will not live together until we are married. That being said, we do not have anything to furnish an apartment with.
We are going to register at the nearest target or walmart (we’re not into high price items such as jc penny or places like that) for the bridal shower and for people who just want to get us a gift BUT what we would really rather have is money towards big furniture. like a bedroom set and couch.
now, i know most people aren’t going to give large amounts and that’s ok…if someone was thinking about purchasing us a $15 coffee maker, we’d rather have that $15 towards the other stuff. and i know it is extremely against etiquette to ask straight up for cash.
our entire guest list is very close friends and family. so were just going to pass on by word of mouth that this is what we wanted to do. but if there were a more “conventional” way to do it..like paypal or soemthing like that, i would rather go that route.
i was reading another bees post about how they set something up with paypal so people could just put their “gift” into that…how does something like that work?
we just know that it would be much easier for us to go out and buy all the small things if/when we needed it…
What’dya say bees? any idea how to go about this?
Post # 3
i would definitely look into myregistry.com…you can add the things from your target and walmart registries on the one list and you can also create cash funds and give them a name liek furniture fund (or somethign more creative…whatever you want) I’m going to use it for my wedding. It seems like it would make everything a lot more organized and nobody will be confused about what you want and from where. I hope this helps! =]
Post # 5
Typically, one of the ways couples hint that they’d prefer money is to only make very small registries for the things they absolutely need. Then you can tell your parents to spread the word, so when Aunt So-and-So asks what you guys want, your parents just tell her that cash or checks would be preferred. JBorrowsky’s suggestion about myregistry.com would also be more clear about your preferences without being super “We Want Money.” I haven’t used it, but I know for some honeymoon sites, couples can register for things like excursions and hotel rooms, so maybe you can register for furniture pieces that your guests can contribute towards.
Post # 6
I am so surprised at the number of people who are afraid that they won’t receive cash. In my social circle, cash is given at the weddings; gifts are given at the shower. That being said, I wouldn’t worry about getting cash. Nonetheless, you can always set up a honeyfund or other honeymoon/cash based registry or do a paypal registry. I think Mrs. Cola did this.
I agree with Lisa that its not polite to straight up ask for cash, or any gift really. Word of mouth or a wedding website is good.
As for a gift registry, be creative. Register for furniture or electronics (see BestBuy, Walmart). Register for large appliances at Sears and Home Depot. Register for gift cards at Home Goods and big box appliance stores. People can go in on expensive gifts together. And if they don’t at least you can get a discount on your unpurchased registry items (See BedBath & Beyond and Crate and Barrel)