(Closed) Registry Questions

posted 7 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve noticed more people getting a hard time for not registering

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We did.  It’s my 2nd marriage, but FI’s first, and I didn’t take much when I left the house from the ex…  so we needed some stuff.

No one has really mentioned it to me, although a close relative sent me a very inexpensive gift from our registry that we got today… and told my mom she & her boyfriend just didn’t see the point in spending over $20 on a gift for us since I obviously didn’t use any of the stuff from the first wedding.

Whatever.

 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

we registered.  and we were reluctant to do it — we are in our 30s, and it’s not like we need to “set up house.”  however, we registered as a sort of “guide” for our guests who wanted to buy us gifts.  my main reasoning was that it would save on headaches of me returning things that weren’t really our taste, or that we already had.  also, i think it makes it easier for some guests, especially of our parents’ generation who expect it. no one gave us a hard time about it, but we tried to register for gifts at a lot of different price points, so guests could spend what they were comfortable with if they chose to buy us gifts.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We did a Honeyfund-people bought us stuff from it and no one gave us crap for it, surprisingly enough:) But we mostly got cash.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the only time people get offended when you register is if you put the information on your invitations like you are expecting gifts…

I agree with cvbee that I think people get more upset when you don’t register because then they have no idea what to buy you.

I  would suggest you register if you don’t want a crapton of Precious Moments figurines and re-gifted frames because they don’t know what else to get you- lol.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been married before but this is FI’s first marriage.  We do plan to register for gifts but to my knowledge, we won’t be having any showers.  We have both been on our own for years, both had our own houses prior to becoming engaged, so there isn’t a lot that we need.  Mainly, we plan to register for upgrades or things that we normally wouldn’t buy for ourselves.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Oh yes we will register. It is his first wedding and my 2nd (but that was 7 yrs ago and when I registered it is not like I registered for 2 sets of flatware etc), we do need stuff and moreover why should I be treated differently than a first time bride and why would I want to start my new married life with the chocolate brown faux saude shower curtain and matching bathroom accessories that looked just perfect in my ex’s main bath? LOL

 

I say register, makes it easier on you, easier on the guests and if anyone complains ignore them!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

After much debate back when we first got engaged, we decided to register at honeyfund as well. I think there are a lot of views and opinions on whether or not encores should register….then my Future Mother-In-Law sent me this article: http://etiquette-guide.com/second-wedding-etiquette/. I really do love her!!! lol

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We just did. I have been having people asking me for months when we were.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Let me also add that we do NOT expect any gifts at all! However…I think a lot of people think this way…that if they are going to a wedding, then they should give a give. I would MUCH rather have someone drop five-bucks in my “wishing well” than receive another figurine or picture frame that I really don’t need. JMO…

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

it is my husbands second wedding and we are um, older- so really we don’t need typical stuff- like a few others, I did a honeymoon registry at uponourstar.com (upon our star) and it seems to be going over ok 🙂 

But I also have things like cabinets and sinks on there- so it is a bit off the wall- but hey, that is what we *need*!  

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@EncoreBridetoBe:  Thank you for your wisdom….my circustance is quite similar to yours.   First wedding in 2001.   I just wanted out, and wasn’t concerned about salvaging “stuff” from the marriage.    Fiance moved in as a bachelor with pretty much only what was in his closet.  Don’t get me wrong, we have enough stuff to live on, but its pretty mismatched, lots picked up from thrif stores, or donations from other family members, etc.   I never had a shower the first time around, and would love to have one this time.   It would be great to have towels that match, maybe a food processor, etc.  And to be completely honest, I think Fiance would like to have something that wasn’t connected to my EX in his house.   Just saying, there are two sides to every story…..   I wouldn’t go for fancy highly priced dishes, and that kind of stuff, but just something that differentiates the future from the past. 

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