Post # 17
I worked at Crate and Barrel in college and it was *really* common for newlyweds to come in with thousands of dollars in returns to exchange for the items they wanted more or whatever. Many of the boxes hadn’t even been opened yet. It happened so frequently that the employees had a system that would help make those sorts of transactions more efficent. Also, I can’t attest for other stores, but I know C&B has a very liberal return policy with regard to registries as well. My advice to you is to not lose the gift reciept! That will make your life much easier, but, as others are encouraging you to do, wait until after your wedding to make any changes because you still may get the items you want, and need the filler items for people who buy you gifts last-minute, and you don’t want to offend you shower attendants who might see when they go to purchase your wedding gift that instead of being marked “filled” their selection has been deleted completely.
Post # 18
bells, I think you missed the post where I said I didn’t really register for anything I did not want… I just want some things a whole heck of a lot more than some of the other things, so when I saw my favorite items all going unpurchased I got a little discouraged. I think if I kept it to just my favorite things there wouldn’t be enough things on my registry for people to choose from.
MissHobbit, glad to know it’s so common!
Post # 19
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
I’d wait until after the wedding is over to start returning things. At that point, you can take stock of everything you’ve received and think about what you really need/want to keep. I’ll be honest: Mr. B and I returned a LOT of our presents…not because we didn’t want the items, but because we realized that we didn’t have the space in our apartment once we brought everything over!
Post # 20
I see, well goodluck and hopefully you get your favorites.
Post # 21
absolutely! I would wait until after the wedding for sure but… Return or exchange as much as you like! ESPECIALLY if those gifters will never come to your house. I see no problem with it. They purchased what they thought you chose but you can change your mind. I did with many items and nobody was the wiser.
Post # 22
Sure – definitely return/exchange if you don’t get the items you really want. Even if people do come to your house, I doubt they will look for the spatula or muffin tins they gave you. Honestly, after a while I really don’t even remember what I got people from their registry.
Post # 23
Just remember that you may recieve items at your shower that you DID register for but were not taken off the list… For example, I just went to a friends bridal shower and all of us BM’s purchased the Dicon she wanted at another store (since she kept checking her registry list to see if anyone purchased it) lol… we were sneaky! 😉
So just wait and see what you get, you may be surprised!!
Post # 24
I’d only return what you actually plan on not using. I kind of get the impression you want to return all the cheap items for the more expensive ones that you are more psyched about. But I bet you’ll get a lot of use out of those “filler” items versus your expensive ones. People typically register for less expensive items to fill the budget needs of guests who can’t afford $200 on gifts. But i don’t understand registering for gifts if you just plan on returning them…..register for what you actually need and will use. Or, adjust your registry accordingly. Even if some of the other things are more “exciting”, i hate to break it to you, but “boring” things are awfully practical! Wait and see what you actually use–if you don’t actually use it, that’s one thing. Heck, I got a vegetable peeler and i was like, “a veggie peeler? what?” and my friend’s wife said it was the BEST one ever. And she was right. It is SUPER awesome. I was never gifted my kitchen aide stand mixer (psh, way too much money for everybody i know) but i ended up buying it with some Lowes Gift Cards we got, plus they BEAT Macy’s price, plus our military discount, which brough it down to a sinfully cheap price.