Post # 1
The concept of a registry is relatively new to me as where I’m from (Mexico) you don’t do it. Because of this, and because Fiance and I have each been living on our own now for 10 years I orginally had not planned on doing one and yet here we are. Fiance and have been long time students so we’ve never had a lot of income and don’t have a whole lot of household items.
And okay, so I know stalking the registry is totally bad manners. But here I am doing it anyway…so during my stalking I noticed that there really hasnt been a whole lot of things that have been purchased
Here are the details:
- Wedding is in 65 days
- Shower is next wknd
- Expecting 250+ guests
- Registered for about 100 items altogether
- Price ranges from $5 – $260 with a good range under $100
- Mostly stuck to kitchen & bathroom things. did not register for bar items
Am I missing something or is this how registries go? I’ve been deleting a few items in case maybe I originally registered for too many (the websites said to register for twice as many gifts as there are guests so they have options)
I am not concerned about not getting gifts –though that might make for an awkward shower, –then again people don’t like watching the opening of gifts! haha!
I just want to make sure this is how things work and make sure I am not asking for too many things, or maybe my price range is too high? Or maybe I didn’t let people know where we are registered? I put it on the website..
I might also just need to take a chill pill
Post # 3
People tend to wait until the very last minute to get wedding or shower gifts. Don’t worry.
Post # 4
Sounds like you don’t have enough on the registry (unrelated to the lack of purchases so far).
Post # 5
whew, okay, I know I tend to wait until the last minute but I’ve also seen a lot of brides posting that they have had to add things because all their items were bought…
Post # 6
Welllll most of my family wouldnt know what to do with a registry, many are coming from Mexico and probably will either skip the gift or give me something sentimental since they dont do registries there. Many have already offered to bring me specific items from Mexico, so really the registry is for FI’s family and our friends. I thought that if things started to go I could add more but umm this does not seem to be the case. I wonder if I just dont have enough options for people though? I have a variety of prices and items though…
Post # 7
Oh okay, that makes sense then. So really you have a registry of ~100 items for around half your guest list.
Post # 8
My Mom phoned me today to say a lot of my items were ‘no longer available’ so I just have to over haul my registry. We’re 30 days to wedding and only 1 item purchased. People like to do last minute. Don’t worry =)
Post # 9
Whew, okay, makes me feel better 🙂
Though I sure do wish someone would buy off your registry! One item?! Come on!!!
Post # 10
I’m guilty of registry stalking, too. I was super-uncomfortable about registering at first, and I mostly put cheap items on the registry. Then my mother told me to add nicer items to our registry, because her friends would expect to buy nicer gifts, so I did. And I got a bit fixated on it!
Our wedding is 41 days away, and a small handful of presents have been purchased but not too many. I registered for plenty of items under $50, but I still wonder if it was wrong to register for such nice things. I’m not used to being showered with presents and attention!
I’m just glad to know I’m not the only registry stalker.
Post # 11
I guess it’s a regional thing? I’ve always seen wedding registries in Mexico – albeit called “Mesas de Regalos” – specifically in larger cities (I’m from one). On the other hand, if people are traveling, it may not be practical to do so with gifts, or they may just wait until they get to your venue city to purchase and gift-wrap? I do think a lot of people will purchase things last minute though.
Post # 12
Hmm it might be both a regional and generational thing. Or maybe a “my family thing”
Where I’m from, Aguascalientes (central mex), it’s common to have “padrinos” or people that “sponsor” certain wedding items. I understand the tradition and whatever floats peoples boats but I have always found that tradition cringe-worthy and swore I would never do it. With the padrino tradition you ask people for instance to be “padrinos” for flowers, and then their job is to pay for them. Unfortunately, they also get to chooose them… It’s a risky situation!
Honestly, my fam is weird with presents. I don’t remember the last time I saw a present given. So I highly doubt any of my family will give me present unless its something sentimental and small like a shawl, or a religious item.
Post # 13
Oh also, update, shower is in 2 days.
40 guests coming, about 10 things bought. Oh well! I’m looking forward to seeing everyone!
Post # 14
My shower is this weekend and so far about 40 items have been purchased. We’ve also gotten items in the mail – I know I usually get the gift the day of or the night before.