(Closed) Registry with no wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Is it appropriate to set up a large gift registry when you do not have any wedding guests?

    No, it looks very gift-grabby. You shouldn't expect any gifts if you're not hosting anything.

    It's not tacky, but it's kind of weird. Why make a registry of gifts you won't get?

    A registry is fine, but they should have just one registry or way fewer items.

    It's a good idea. You never know if people might want to get you gifts.

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  • Post # 16
    2180 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    HappyTappyBee:  So if they’re not telling anyone about it and they get 10% off whatever isn’t bought, but they wouldn’t buy any of it, isn’t it just a convoluted wish list for them? What are the chances someone is going to check for her name on a whim at the exact store she’s registered with? Sounds like she should have put it on pinterest rather than made an actual registry imho. 

    Post # 17
    421 posts
    Helper bee

    People sometimes get me birthday gifts even if I don’t have a birthday party. I would say as long as she is not advertising it it is not gift grabby, it is just being prepared for what to tell people if they do want to get gifts. The amount is maybe excessive, but that doesn’t mean they expect that much stuff, they could just be giving a variety. 

    Post # 18
    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Wait I don’t understand why they made a registry if they’re not hosting anything and aren’t advertising it to anyone. What was the point? Even for a discount that doesn’t really make sense. 

    Post # 19
    1887 posts
    Buzzing bee

    So, they’re basically eloping, but made a big, secret registry? I would say that’s “weird” more than “tacky.” The size of it is what’s strange to me–why put so much stuff on there, unless you’re expecting a large volume of people to need gift ideas? If I was making a registry just for the discount, I’d have like 5-10 big ticket items on there. We only made a registry after much prodding by my Future Mother-In-Law, so maybe their parents were urging them to register? Strange.

    Post # 20
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    That seems very weird to me. What a strange use of their time. 

    Post # 21
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We are having a 125-person event, and even then we barely wanted to register because it felt gift-grabby. but if she’s not advertising it I guess it’s not terrible but still kind of weird. I know we were offered a ton of free gifts if we registered for a certain dollar value of items…was this the case here? 


    Does she have older relatives who won’t give cash? 

    Post # 22
    7979 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    If she isn’t telling anyone about the registry, then it isn’t gift-grabby. If people look it up because they WANT to buy her something, that’s fine. It’s a little odd to take the time to register at all, but it isn’t hurting anyone.

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