Post # 1
I was invited to a housewarming party via facebook and got on to RSVP ‘no’ (have a wedding to attend that evening) and realized that the facebook invitation includes a link to a Registry!
Back story: I don’t even know the girl who officially bought the house; her roommate is an old friend of mine who’s moving in with her. The registry is in both their names, but the facebook invitation and the party is clearly being put on by the girl’s mom, who makes jokes to those who can’t come that they will accept checks to “daughter’s name foundation.”
I don’t know what housewarming party etiquette is (I’ll confess: I’ve never been to one) but I’ve only ever heard of people registering for wedding parties and baby showers. The fact that the invitation was received via facebook and there’s a registry is VERY off-putting to me and I probably wouldn’t even bring a gift if I could go because I feel very insulted by it. Perhaps it’s all just rubbing me the wrong way, but it seems like a total call for gifts or cash – especially considering the informality of a facebook invitation.
Am I sensitive or is this normal practice now? Has anyone else ever heard of this?
Post # 3
I know when you are invited to a housewarming party, its nice to bring a little something house related as a gift, BUT I’ve never heard of a housewarming registry… seems a little…tacky? Could be I’ve just never heard of it and it’s the new “hot” thing…sorry, I’m no help… I definitely wouldn’t be giving them money. If you feel like you need to give something, since you were invited, give something to the girl you actually know…
Post # 4
It is a little odd. I’ve always kind of put housewarmings into the category of shower-lite. Giving a gift to go with the house is pretty standard, but it isn’t as much the focus of the event.
I personally don’t think registering is problematic, but the situation as a whole is off-putting. If there had JUST been a mention of a registry, phrased better, it wouldn’t have bothered me. But the gift grabby tone of the whole thing is the problem.
Post # 5
Oooh I think that’s definitely tacky. While it can be nice to bring a housewarming gift, it’s definitely not required. A registry is not only unnecessary, but going too far. I usually bring more of a hostess gift like a bottle of wine or flowers. I don’t like situations where people start making it requisite to bring a gift (other than showers, I can get behind that).
Post # 6
Oh wow – that rubs me the wrong way!
Sometimes our society is too gift oriented – we held a housewarming party to have all of our friends over to see the house NOT to get gifts. A few people brought us bottles of wine but that was it and greatly appreciated!
I would NOT attend a housewarming party that had a registry and the most I bring to a friends housewarming would be a bottle of wine!
Post # 7
Wow! I have never heard of that! When I think of housewarming I think of people bringing a small gift like flowers, wine, or a house hold item or maybe a dish but never hears of a registry. And that mom, how rude of her to make those comments! Eeek
Post # 8
That seems so innapropriate.