Post # 1
I’m preparing my wedding invitations and I don’t know what to do about the registery question. I know it’s tacky and that I shouldn’t mention the registery on the invite, BUT do I add an additional card that lists the places, do I add a card that says, “visit our wedding website for event details and information” and list the registery there (will people go there for the registery list) or do I actually say to visit the wedding website for event details and registery information?
I’m so confused. My sister didn’t mention anything about her registery when she got married in June 2008 and only had listed her wedding website on her save the date, so people actually came up to her and said they were confused where to go and asked her why she didn’t include it.
I think it’s tacky to include but then again, it’s convienent. Help!
Post # 3
Wedding websites have become more common even since your sister’s wedding. Just list it on the website and in all honesty, yes you’ll have some people ask where you’re registered, but for the most part people can figure it out!
Post # 4
You’ve got the right idea with the info card. I would do that and have a registry page on your website. Just make sure it isn’t the first page or mentioned on the first page.
Post # 5
Thank you. I think your right. Do you think reminding people of the wedding website address is okay? Not saying anything about the registery, just relisting the address on a card (not the actual invitation)
Post # 6
We included a card that said for more information about our wedding, please visit our website and listed the url. Most people found what they needed there (we linked to our registries), however, a lot also just asked family. They shouldn’t be too confused.
Post # 7
I hate that rule. If I could go back in time and break it, I would have included a registry insert in my invites. EVERYONE asked us, even though it was on our VERY easy to use website. In fact, most people just kinda ignored all the helpful information in the invites in general…grrr…
Post # 8
We don’t have a website and we still didn’t put the information on our website. A good part of the woman are invited to the shower and will know where we’re registered from that and we figure anyone else can either assume we registered at my favorite store (Target) or they can ask.
Post # 9
You can make a free web site at The Knot. Then put your website on the information card.
As much as you would like to … it is a huge faux-pas to mention your registry anywhere in your invite.
Post # 10
Okay, I’m going crazy. I was all set to add something like this to my reception card, “For more information about our wedding including directions, accomidations and event details, please go to http://www…..”
My sister and mom are going crazy. They say I need to include a little piece of paper that lists the registery locations. They say they know it’s tacky but where asked too much during my sister’s wedding and that she didn’t get anything on her registery because of it. HELP! What the heck do I do??
Post # 11
Honestly I’ll pry be including the registry info somewhere with my invitation. Honestly I think its ridiculous to care if you do or don’t. Depending also on who your inviting. I know half the people I’m inviting are the internet savvy type. The wont go online to look at it. They’ll be asking me where we registered or just think we didn’t register anywhere. Its just more convenient. My family has always done this. I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t include this type of info in the invitation. I actually appreciate it because then I don’t have to scout around looking for it or figure out some random thing them might already have to buy them! I really don’t understand why that’s so wrong and sometimes people need to change ancient traditions. I’ve never felt by others doing that that is was presumptuous or rude. That’s just my thought!
Post # 12
Despite etiquette, I am including the registries in the out of town invites. I gave some to my mom, FI’s mom, Fiance, and some friends and family here to spread the word.
Post # 13
Do not include any registry info in your invites. The information is given out via word of mouth from your families and attendants. People are intelligent enough to ask the appropriate folks for that info and go from there.
That rule is in place for a reason because gifts are never required, nor should they be expected. When registry info is included in the invites, it makes the couple look gift-grabby, even if that is not their intention at all.
Post # 14
Just put the registry info on your website, and include information on how to access the website with your invitation. I wouldn’t mention the word registry anywhere, but mention things like learning more about your history together, hotel accommodations, parking/directions, etc.