Post # 1
I’m sorry in advance because I know there are major issues in the world and this so isn’t one of them. But I’m still really upset that my wedding day wasn’t exactly how I expected it to be. We didn’t get getting ready photos, mainly because of money, and my family has a lot of drama and figured it wouldn’t be the fun experience everyone talked about. And it wasn’t, it was really stressful. But I’m still upset looking at everyone else’s wedding albums and they are all there. I feel like my husband and I are missing like a chunck of our wedding story, and I can never get it back. I didn’t realize how important those pictures would be to me. Our album just starts with the first look. Also had bustle up for first look (no one told me brides usually have it down; I was told to protect it) and I hate the way it looks in the first look pics. Still got some getting ready ish pictures before he ceremony (rings, mom unbustling dress, etc.)
Just wanting to move on. So happy to be married. I just expected my wedding day to be a lot of things that it wasn’t.. can anyone relate? Anyone have advice on their pics or advice in dealing with letting the imperfections go? Again, could use some KIND words, figured talking with other brides would be helpful is all. Thanks bees!
Post # 2
Why don’t you refer to one of your previous threads which are ONLY ABOUT THIS TOPIC.
Did you ever look into therapy about this? I don’t understand why you keep posting the same thing month after month…
Post # 3
I don’t have getting ready pictures. Not everyone gets them. It’s really not that important a part of the wedding day, especially if it’s not a happy memory anyway.
I think you really need to focus on the positive and stop comparing to others. What others did or didn’t do shouldn’t impact how your feel about your own pictures. Every time you think a negative thought about your wedding remind yourself of 5 things you loved about that day. Don’t let the negative outweigh the positive.
Post # 4
Go take some new pictures and move on with your life. Are you going to complain about this forever? I’m sure your pictures turned out fine.
Post # 5
bahhwedding22 : look you can’t change it. So either move on or go take getting ready photos. Personally if I was a bridesmaid and a few months after the wedding the bride asked for my to make myself available for getting ready photos I’d try to make it but it’s just not going to be a priority for me. No matter how close we are. So don’t be surprised if people don’t drop everything to get these photos.
Everyone has something that goes wrong at their weddings. It sucks. You’ve put a lot of time and money into this one day and it goes wrong – families behave like dicks, friends don’t turn up, photos get forgotten, people run late, people say inappropriate things, wear inappropriate things, things get lost or forgotten. It’s life, you’ve got to accept that it happened that way and that’s it. If you want, we can all put down every detail of our weddings that wrong and play top trumps?
You got kind words on your last threads and clearly they didn’t work. You also got some tough love, which isn’t working either. So it’s down to you to snap yourself out of this.
Post # 6
Thank you for your kind words! hikingbride :
Post # 7
You called it, I’m having a hard time empathizing because there are actual major problems in the world.
Also because I didn’t know “getting ready photos” were a thing. I have literally never heard of them. Now I’m embarassed….
Post # 8
Why do you keep posting the same thing?
Post # 9
Seriously bee you need to let go, I don’t think anyone here can help you. You have posted multiple times about the same issue and here you are again.
Everyone needs a vent and wedding photos are super important to lots of us but there isn’t anything to be done here. You have had your period of being sad and wallowing and now you need to let go of those feelings and move on from it. Your wedding is over and rehashing the same thing about getting ready photos isn’t going to change anything. It is clear that even taking bridal photos will not help you because they won’t be real.
Wedding photos were really important to me and we splashed out on a photographer because it was our top priority, BUT we looked at them the first few days after getting them back and haven’t since. They are nice to have but we won’t look at them a lot.
You aren’t missing a chunk from your wedding just because you didn’t get pictures of it. It still happened, you were still there getting ready with your friends or family and feeling all the anticipation. A photo isn’t needed for something to be real.
This must be like your 4th or 5th post on this, at this point I can only wonder if there are deeper issues going on in either your life or your marriage and you’re latching on to this as a tangible reason to feel dissatisfied.
TLDR. I sympathize with you but at this point this is insane and needs to stop.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2019 - UK
Getting ready pictures are the most boring pictures and I always skip through them.
Think of it this way. Why do you have wedding pictures? Its not really to show people now, most where probable there. No its for you in 20 years time to bring back the memories of that day. You said it yourself, your getting ready was stressful and not fun, is that what you want to remember about your wedding day? Is when you open your wedding album the first thing you want to remember the stress and drama of your family? Or the memory of your husband seeing you for the first time in your dress? The happiness and excitement of getting married?
You made the right choice of not having getting ready photos and don’t let the idea of “because other people have them” change your mind on this.
The bustle was probable also the right choice, wedding dresses can get dirty really quickly. Did you want to risk it being dirty even before you walk down the aisle. Again just because other people treat their wedding like a photo shoot and risk everything for a nice picture does not mean you have to. How upset would you have been if you had to walk down the aisle with a big grass stain on you dress?
Post # 11
Your husband must be so upset that all you do is focus on the negatives. Must be a pretty shitty feeling for him.
Post # 12
Did you expect different answers to this thread than your previous threads? Have you been working on your feelings at ALL?
Post # 13
bahhwedding22 : You are severely limited regarding the subjects of your posts. I’ll do you a solid and give you several potential subjects for your next posts:
- Is macramé really out of fashion? (POLL)
- My husband bought a new cologne. What does it mean?
- A friend did not like my haircut. (VENT)
Post # 14
Why didn’t anybody snap a cellphone pic? Lack of money for a professional doesn’t mean you can’t document it.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
bahhwedding22 : You didn’t get any getting ready photos? But you got some getting ready ish photos? So you did get photos? Move on bee. You did photos maybe you didn’t get enough or the one’s you wanted but you have some. Cherish the one’s you have. Be happy with those. You need to look at the happy moments of your wedding day. Look at the glass half full not half empty.