Post # 1
About a week ago I was pretty much rushed (and a bit pressured) into choosing a temporary wedding band for our upcoming wedding mid July. My Fiance and I had already agreed I would just get a cheap temp band, until we can afford something really nice that I will really love, in a year or so. I have short little fingers, so I usually get thin, delicate rings that look nice on my finger. The band I was rushed into getting is wide and I can’t wear my e.ring with it, because my e.ring fits perfectly to the crease at the bottom of the finger. I hate this wedding band a little more every time I look at it, and I’m starting to dread having to wear it. I don’t know what to do because it’s non refundable.
As you can see in this picture, my engagement ring will not be wearable with the wedding band as it cuts the circulation off in my finger. The wedding band itself looks pretty if you’re just holding it and looking at the details. It just looks really bad on my small hands, and I wasn’t given enough time in the shop to realize it didn’t work well with my finger size and e.ring. Now I’m going kinda nuts because I don’t want to wear this ring, even for a year. 🙁
Should I just suck it up and ask my fiance to get me another wedding ring, maybe just a simple thin plain band so I have something I can live with until I get my dream wedding band a year or two down the line?
Post # 3
Return it. You want to able to wear it comfortably.
Post # 4
I’m wondering why you were rushed? I would just tell him you felt rushed and the ring is uncomfortable and you want to sell or return it and get something else. How much was it?
Post # 5
Just saw the fact that you’re going to wear it for two years! Yes,get something you can live with! This will drive you crazy. You can look on etsy for gold filled bands they are pretty reasonable, even silver depending on your budget.
I’m bothered by the fact that you were pressured though. Even if it’s “just” temporary you should have been able to take the time to pick it.
Post # 6
I’m sorry, I don’t think it looks wearable. It looks terribly uncomfortable. Can it not be resized? I actually don’t think it’s that bad of a match!
Since you can’t return it.. if it cant be resized, I’d just throw it in a jewelry box and forget about it. Or try to get a few bucks for it at a pawn shop? Speaking of pawn shop, maybe find a slim used band to wear for a year or two?
Or buy a cheapie from berricle.com maybe? They ship super fast. And they hold up very well!
Or ebay? 🙂
Post # 7
It wasn’t so expensive, about $114 (which is double or aimed for price range though). I was rushed because I had my fiance and my future Mother-In-Law breathing down my neck to pick a ring right then and there at that shop. My fiance insisted it be at that shop because on a previous trip there I had seen some ring and said “I could wear that”. When we got there, I stared at the cases with rings in our price range forever and thought the rings were pretty but nothing that I wanted. He insisted I get one there, basically saying if I didn’t just pick one then I never would (I guess because we had looked at so many shops and I hadn’t seen anything I absolutely loved).
I had told him to let me just order one from a store in the US and have it shipped to my little sister who is flying over for my wedding (I live in Sweden) so she could bring it to me. He didn’t like that idea.
I don’t think we can return the ring, because it was engraved with his name and the wedding date.
Post # 8
Exchange it ASAP. who wants to wear a band that you don’t like?
Post # 9
Can you wear it on your right hand? Or wear your engagement ring on your right hand?
Post # 10
Maybe you can put it on a chain and wear it on your neck since it has the sentimental engraving on it. Then like others have said either look at a pawn shop or online somewhere for a simple thin band to wear for now. Berricle is a great place to get nice looking fans that will be fine for a couple of years! You could even get one with stoned if you’re looking for bling and they are very affordable. also it should have been obvious to that Jeweler that that band was going to be too tight on your finger with another ring. Therefore the Jeweler is partly at fault
Post # 11
On a necklace sounds like a nice idea for that ring. Or possibly the other hand? Could you do that?
check out full moon jewelry in Etsy. They have teeny thin bands for super cheap. I have 2 in my stack. They were $20 and I’ve been wearing them for 2 years. They are great!
Post # 12
Why don’t you just use your engagement ring for the ceremony? I know people who didn’t even bother with the band because their e-rings were enough.
Post # 13
I think its lovely, on its own, now that it is engraved, wear it on your right hand or a chain….personally i wouldnt want to get married and go through my wedding ceremony with a “temporary” ring….I would use my ering in this case to get married with as you want your ring exchange to be your forever ring…I coudlnt imagine just discarding or upgrading my wedding ring if he had put it on my finger during our vows, just my own personal opinion.
Post # 14
I’m really side-eyeing your fiancé here. Was it really necessary to insist on one store only, then take his mother with you and THEN rush you? A wedding band is something super important to many people. I guess I would have been like, okay, I’ll go browse alone and once I picked a ring, you can come with me again (or give me free rein (reign?) to buy it on my own.)
Is this a pattern in your relationship?
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2017 - State Park
It looks nice but horribly uncomfortable. I’m wondering why you can’t have either the engagement or wedding band resized?
Short of that, I’d just get a simple, thin, Sterling silver band. Keep in mind that you don’t have to love it, especially if it’s temporary. You need to be able to wear it without losing your finger.