(Closed) Regrets NOT inviting Father????

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6543 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d tell dad to stuff it. HE moved to another country, that’s not your fault. Adults should be adults, and they’ve been divorced for 13 years, he needs to get over it. Your mom and her Boyfriend or Best Friend should be just as entitled to be at your wedding. He could have made the trip back to you during your first wedding. 

Post # 5
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1183 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@wedquest22:  We had something similar, but it was my mom who we did not invite or uninvited due to her pulling something like this.

As somone who walked down the aisle a month ago, I have absolutely NO REGRETS about my decision. I would not change a single thing about my wedding day. I walked down the aisle alone, and it was perfect, because it represented me and the fact that I had to be independent.

Part of being an adult and getting married is sticking to boundaries and defending your family. Your FAMILY = your new hubby and the people who are there for you. If he can’t do that, then that’s not your issue it is TOTALLY his!

Post # 6
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221 posts
Helper bee

@wedquest22:  It’s totally up to and your choice. It’s hard to invite someone who is acting like that but he is your father. It’s a hard decision maybe try and talk to him once more and tell him how important this day is to you and you want him there but if he can’t behave for your day then he can’t come.

Post # 7
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hi brides!! I am new t this site. First of all, congrats to all of you!! In reaction to the issues in reget of not inviting you father, I have a father who did not attend my first weddding to the father of my children because of a very long, on going and majorly imature fued with my mothers husband. (Were talking since I was twelve, and I am now 36!! Really?!) I just announced to him tonight that I am enged an told him I would really love for him to attend and he said he would, but then commented on if I was going to invite my mothers husband. I do not want a reapeat of 18 years ago when he did not attend due to the fact that my mothers husband was there. I had to have him, not my actual father, walk me down the isle. My fiance says I should just tell them I’d like them both there, and let them work it out. But due to past experiences with them, this is my day, and to be honest, Im worried a scene could be made by there confrontation. Any advice? Thanks!!

Post # 8
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow…all of this sounds too familiar.  I’m not inviting my father to our wedding.  They divorced when I was sixteen and my mom raised me and my three younger siblings without any help from him.  He was always selfish and only thought of himself, still does.  My mother cannot stand the sight of him.  I debated whether or not to invite him and in the end decided not to. I want my mom to enjoy the wedding too and I know him being there will make her uncomfortable.  After all she’s done for us I wouldn’t put her through that. 

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