(Closed) Regrets post wedding – that won’t go away

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5883 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. It totally sucks to feel horrible when you know it overall was an awesome day. My florist used the wrong color flowers and I hated them (still do and it’s been over a year since my wedding). I couldn’t sleep for several weeks after the wedding I was so upset.

Everyone will tell you to just get over it, there is nothing you can do about it. But I think you have every right to be upset. I say, just feel the feelings you are having. In time you will make peace with them. In time it won’t feel so bad. And at some point find some peace with the one small (or big) problem. But finding peace doesn’t mean it won’t still bother you.

One thing I did do, after I gave myself permission to be pissed and upset, is try to focus on all the awesome things I did like about the wedding/reception. Focus on the happy.

Good Luck!

Post # 5
317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Everyone is entitled to feel the way they feel, so you are more than welcome to vent. I think you’ll notice on here that a good number of brides here had something go wrong that bugged them afterwards. The wedding industry hypes up our dream weddings so much that we think it has to be absolutely perfect, but it rarely is. I had a few things about my own wedding that I would have changed, but trust me, as time goes on this is not going to bother you! My two year anniversary is coming up and all I think about are the good things!

Post # 6
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

my best advice would be to think back several years to weddings you’ve attended. do you really remember what kind of decorations, the music, the centerpieces? most people do not ( especially when they are not in the midst od planning their own wedding). in  a few years this will just be a faded memory. if its the worst thing to have happened, consider yourself fortunate!


PS not trying to make light of it, I’m sorry that things didn’t go as planned!

Post # 7
14481 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Focus on the good parts… that’s what I try to tell myself too.  I have a huge regret too post wedding.  I hate hate hate how there isnt a single normal portrait shot of me and my husband, or a shot of us without my bouquet up in front of me covering the details of my dress that I loved so much.  I’ve dwelled on it so much about how this or that shot would have been perfect if I just put my damn arm down.  I  dont like how awkward we look in so many of it posed and wish we’d just done more boring standard shots.   The only way I get over it is just to remind myself of the awesome shots we did get. 

Post # 9
11246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

The sharp memory will get less as time goes by and when you do think about it you’ll find it easier to think about / deal with 😉

Post # 11
24 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

I understand where you come from with the post wedding issues. We all want a perfect day and for some reason we have not over seen  every situation: Rain in this case.

My ceremony had to move inside as well because of the rain *sighs*. There was not a day without rain in that month here, which was very unusual because it was in summer at its best time. I actually didnt mind it then but right after the wedding it bothered a hole lot to see all being tucked up, things ppl left here and there that got into most important pictures of the ceremony. I later on found a simple solution: photoshop. I have the dreadful orange plastic bag Father-In-Law hung on the wall and other unsightful stuffs removed from the pictures. I’m happy with the album now.

What important is that you had a great day and probably you didnt even notice those details that were out of places. It just shows that your mood was over the moon and that what you need to keep to cherish the memories and the way you felt that day, not  detail that bother you more after the wedding (from pictures, footages) than on the day.


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