(Closed) Regretting my decision….

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
49 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

What is she not paying for? The additional 3 days? Or the whole package?

Was it her decision to get the vacation package or yours, and if yours, did you give her the option of the original offer of just the ticket?

That’s very generous of you to pay a $1200 cost for your Maid/Matron of Honor to travel and stay, but if it was done openly with the understanding she would pay you back, I would quietly and firmly bring this up with her.

If you’re worried about not getting the shower or bachelorette if you kick up a fuss, then decide whether you think she’ll use the debt against you and not throw you anything – both of the parties are not mandatory, btw, she doesn’t *have* to organize them, its just expected.  But if my friend had shelled out 1200 bucks for me for an extended vacation to Hawaii, damn right I’d be throwing her a seriously nice schindig!

It’s too late now to use the old adage “never mix friends and money” but it is true, sadly =(.  It may be you’ll have to make the decision whether to sit down and try to talk to her about paying back the debt, OR sit down and talk about the bridal do’s – you may not be able to get both.

Sorry you’re going through this, money debt between bridal party this close to the wedding must be pretty stressful.  Deep breaths.  Maybe talk to your Fiance and get his advice – he must not be very happy about her not paying either!




Post # 4
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Francis:  You can use other means to buy airfare other than a credit card, and if she didn’t have the money she could have borrowed it rather than making you pick up the tab… How good of a freind is she? Has she done a lot for you in the past? Perhaps this will ease your discomfort. Or if not, talk to her. Tell her you dont feel comfortable with having paid for her, or maybe just talk to her about the party, tell her some ideas you had and nudge her in the right direction?

Post # 6
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Francis:  it sounds like she wants a vacation on you. I’d make her pay for it. 

Post # 7
2958 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Don’t let her use you for a free vacation. I mean, the deed is done now, and you’ve payed, but she should be at least putting money towards it. Beggars can’t be choosers!

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