(Closed) Regular Bee going Anon

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, that’s not cool at all.  I would take a serious hard look at this relationship and if it’s one you want to continue.  A significant other is supposed to be your support, your shoulder to lean on, and your defender — NOT someone who is spending months trying to make jokes at your expense.  

You deserve better than this, my friend.  You have had a hard life, and you shouldn’t settle on the person you’re going spend the rest of your life with.  This person should raise you up, not put you down.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

bluebunny:  how was he making fun of your appreciation? im curious.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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bluebunny:  Wow that is thoughtless and careless of him! You should sit down with him and tell him everything you just said here. He obviously isn’t empathising with you and your experience, so remind him why those things are so special to you. If he cares about you as a person, he’ll understand and apologize – and never make that mistake again!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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bluebunny:  I’m sorry you are going through this, but try talking to your Fiance.  I’m sure he knows what you went through, but he may not understand how painful it was.  Have you tried counseling?  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

You sound so sweet! If my guy bought me flowers I’d be crazy appreciative of them too. Crazy! You’re not doing anything wrong. Your fiance is a heartless wally, and you need to tell him so. Tell him he’s hurt you and ask him not to do it again, even if he is just joking.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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bluebunny:  are you saying that his “cracka lacking” joke is him making fun of you when you appreciate someone buying you flowers? Doesn’t sound like they have anything to do with you. The jokes are lame, sure, but not directed at you. Maybe you just have a different sense of humor?

I am sooo confused….

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

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SoonAsYouCan:  Same here. How is this making fun of you? It sounds like he’s just trying to make you laugh.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

None of the examples you gave give any indication that he was making fun of you – are these just examples of his general sense of humor? I feel like I’m missing something…

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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bluebunny:  based on your very last statement i would say he sounds like a douche. The men in our lives are here to protect us, feelings and all, whenever possible. If he knows about your past he especially should understand why even the smallest act of kindness brings you joy. All the other jokes he does are silly and wouldnr bother me but the ones where he outright mocks you for being sensitive is not cool at all. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think his teasing you and his lame jokes are two completely different matters. I’m not sure how you’re making the connection there.

When it comes to teasing you, talk to him tonight and explain to him how it hurt your feelings. If you’re going to marry this guy, it’s important to work on your communication now.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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bluebunny:  Ah, I misunderstood that those were two separate things.  Even so, if his actions are rude and hurtful, and it’s not something you should be tolerating.  Making fun of your appreciation?  That’s awful.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  agreed. you might need to get a thicker skin if you’re going to spend your  life with this guy. Or you will just have to say “listen, i dont do well with teasing so knock it off.” I dont think there was any malice here, he;s just being a dumb man. 

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