(Closed) Rehashing old wounds

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Leave it alone to die a natural death?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

one by a long shot! I don’t see the problem with #2- Accept the gift and use it on your bf.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I voted wrong by accident.  #1 is awful.  #2 is just creepy. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t get the purpose of this post?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Torrid:  my thoughts too.  did i miss something??

Post # 9
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Honey bee

@ashasmith:  What??? Are you two going through pre-marital counseling? This does not seem like a healthy conversation to be having. Obviously we cannot judge your relationship, but what good does this really do for you as a couple?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that both of those things are a breach of trust. Arranging to meet for sex is clearly worse than accepting a gift, but both easily stoke distrust in your partner. I’d be more worried that clearly you don’t seem to be moving on from these. It doesn’t really matter who was worse now. Now you need to find a way to heal, forgive, and move on. There’s a lot of heartbreak in your future if you don’t learn how to move past these things as a couple. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

The way you present the question doesn’t leave much much room for an informed and unbiased opinion. Obviously the way it is phrased #1 is way worse. But what makes the girl a slut? How do you know he was getting together with a female to cheat? Likewise, what was the gift that was given? Were stirngs attached? What was the exboyfriend’s expectation when he gave you the gift? Were you leading him on at all?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think both are wrong. Both show severe disrespect for the other partner in the relationship but for me intent to cheat would be a deal breaker.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Both are wrong and its “Victoria’s Secret”

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

It shouldn’t matter which offense was “worse,” especially if your relationship is in a good place. I’m confused as to why the two of you felt you needed to discuss this… 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If you’re “in a good place” then why are you having strangers take a poll vote on whose past offenses were worse? They were both kind of creepy, move on.

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