(Closed) Rehearsal and rehearsal dinner formalities?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2980 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ettiquette does not state that out of town guests are invited to the rehersal dinner. The only people who should be invited to the rehersal dinner is those that are rehersing (wedding party, parents, spouces of wedding party, and the officent if they are close) The whole OOT guests being invited is based off the wedding industry trying to squeeze every dime out of you possible. There is absolutly nothing wrong with the rehersal dinner that you want.

Post # 3
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would just invite immediate family — your parents and siblings — to the rehearsal dinner. Sit the problem sister on the opposite end of the table from your FI. After dinner, you could always tell the rest of your guests that you will be having drinks at the hotel bar or some other convenient spot from 8:00-10:00pm if they would like to stop by.

Whatever you decide to do, just make it clear to your guests beforehand. For a guest, there is nothing worse than showing up to a wedding and not knowing what exactly they need to attend and what they don’t.

Post # 4
45534 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Etiquette does not state that OOT’s need to be invited to the rehearsal dinner. Normally the rehearsal dinner includes immediate family, anyone involved in the ceremony and their SO’s, sometimes extended to include grandparents.

The dinner offers a chance to ensure that the families have met prior to the wedding, and thank both family and wedding party for their support and participation.

Post # 5
570 posts
Busy bee

To echo everyone else: Etiquette requires that those involved in the *rehearsal* must be invited to the rehearsal dinner (along with their SOs, of course). Nothing more.

It is customary to also include immediate family, but to exclude sisters would not technically be impolite – though it may cause more hurt feelings and additional family drama than it is worth. 

In some regional circles (certainly not all) it is also common to include OOT guests. This, however, has never been a requirement of etiquette, merely a courtesy that is often extended in the Midwest (and perhaps the South?)

Post # 6
9557 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree that you can get away with not inviting OOT guests, but it’s a nice thing to do, especially if they’ve traveled a long distance. We also had a large percentage of OOT guests and so we decided to invite everyone and call it a Welcome Dinner. It was great to have some extra time to visit with everyone. We kept it very casual with homemade BBQ and it wasn’t expensive, at all, and we had a lot more guests than you. So that’s an option, if you’d like, but don’t feel obligated.


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