(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can you do it outside?  If she is really set on hosting it at her house, can you cut the number of people invited?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yea that’s gotta be frustrating….I would set her aside with your Fiance and have a talk with her…Tell her everything you wrote in this posting….And make sure she knows that this is your wedding and this is stressing you out and it is NOT her food that you don’t like. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would just do it at a restaurant, it will be too crowded and stressful.  Tell her nicely, im sure she wont mind i mean it only happens once.  She’s not really saving alot by cooking, thats alot of food to buy for 50 people!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

what if you’re able to rent a room at a community center? that way she could still cook whatever she wants to and “prepare” it, but you’d all have a lot more room. if there is one near you, they often have several spaces for different sized parties.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

yeah I understand… I’m thinking maybe she sees it as her way of “helping” and not seeing how stressful it is to you.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Perhaps you could indirectly point out just how difficult it will be to have the Rehearsal Dinner at her house?  I would send her estimates for transportation costs from the rehearsal site, rental tables, linens, china, and utensils for the guests who will obviously be seated in the backyard, and a rental estimate for a tent.  If she comes back wanting to know why you want all that, you can explain the logistical dilemma of transporting 50 people 30 minutes away from the rehearsal (which is a LONG way for some people!!) and also the logistics of having 50 people in her very tiny home!  Perhaps when she tries to defend her idea, she’ll see she is actually be very ridiculous!  She’s really only thinking of herself.  And honestly, wouldn’t a restaurant work just as nicely for a RD???

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

Is this her way of saving money?  If so, then it might be easily resolved by you and Fiance, thanking her, but declining and having it wherever you want, and paying for it yourselves.

I also like miss spunkin’s idea. 

Also, not sure about prices in your area, but I’m from a relatively inexpensive city (or so I think).  An Rehearsal Dinner for close to 30 people cost my parents $1000.

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