(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner ?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I don’t think you have to invite them, but if you can afford it it might be nice.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Not sure if you have to invite them, but I agree with lynnabby that it would be nice. Could you two foot the bill for the SOs since there are only 3 of them? I know some places let you order whatever and others will let you pick 3 entrees for your guests to choose from so costs don’t get too out of control. Also, maybe have Future Father-In-Law pay for food but no alcoholic drinks since they are usually pricey or put a limit on drinks? Hope this was helpful.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It would definitely be nice to include the SOs, especially if you’re close to them. How fancy is this rehearsal dinner? Is it $100/plate or closer to $20?

We’re including SOs of the entire bridal party.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

We included SOs of the bridal party too, partly bc it was a destination wedding and partly bc I wanted everyone to get to know each other. I think it would be a nice gesture to invite them. Ditto with your FI’s mum – even though his dad is hosting, if she has a partner/parent/sibling/good friend coming in for the wedding I would probably allow her to bring a guest so she doesn’t feel outnumbered by her ex’s family. That’s just me though! Family politics can get tricky ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper

I’d agree that it would be nice for them to be included, but it’s not the end of the world if it doesn’t work out. I’m sure they’ll understand.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I could see why they’d like to be included. Since your wedding is on a Saturday and your rehersal is on a Friday – so you’ll be monopolizing most of their SO’s time for the weekend, I think it might be a nice gesture.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If it is financially possible, I would include the SOs of the wedding party. As an SO I would be completely understanding about being on my own for events on the day of the wedding, but more than likely would feel a little ostracized if my SO was invited to the dinner and I wasn’t, especially if I were close with the bride and groom.

I would highly recommend including them, even if it means going someplace a little bit cheaper.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I really think you should invite the SO’s, especially if they are in serious relationships.  At least from an etiquette standpoint it would be a good idea. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

As someone who has been both in weddings and the SO of someone who was in weddings, I think it would be really nice if you could include the SOs.  There is a lot of time spent apart when you are the SO of a groomsman/bridesmaid so if they could be at the Rehearsal Dinner together, I’m sure they would really appreciate it!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Our rehearsal dinner will be about $25 a plate so its not that pricey, we are inviting all the SO’s and also my aunt and uncle that are flying in from out of state.  When FI’s brother got married a few years ago, they booked the entire restaurant and had a ton ofpeople there and his dad paid for it, we are only having around 18 so i dont see why it would be a problem

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I really think you need to invite them.  Especially for anyone who is coming from out of town.  They will obviously travel together and it’s unfair to expect the SO to stay alone in a hotel room for the evening.  If you Father-In-Law can’t afford it you guys should offer to chip in to cover the additional people.

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