- 8 years ago
So I am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my best friend’s wedding. My friend lives half way across the country so I have basically helped plan her entire wedding. I have picked the flowers, done the cake, met with the photographer, even went to listen to the band playf for her 2nd opinion.
I am the only Bridesmaid or Best Man with a serious bf who is going to be around. The other Bridesmaid or Best Man are all younger than I am, in college (his sisters and hers), or my one other engaged friend whos fiance can’t make it because he will be traveling on business.
I have spent a lot of time and money aand gone above and beyond my Bridesmaid or Best Man duties. I planned teh entire bachelorette party, and bought all the cakes, pastries, food, decoartions and paid in full for the hotel (the other girl who is engaged is going to reimburse me some) because she said she felt guilty to have their “College age” sisters contribute to the bach. party fund. My engaged friend and I basically paid entirely for the shower as well.
So now dum dum dooo dunn comes the wedding.
And she asked for help on the day before doing the centerpieces. I told her i am working that day- because i am out of vacation time and would have to take a day off unpaid, and she sighed. I felt really bad, and took 4 horus our of work to help her work on them.
But last night I received an invitiation to the rehearsal dinner- and I am the only one invited. She also asked me to stay at her moms houise the night before the wedding (I live with my bf, we have been together 3 years)
He was not invited to the rehes. dinner and on top of it.. she expects me to stay at her moms, on the couch (her mom lives LESS than 2 miles from my home).
I feel like she is over stepping her boundaries and after all I have done for her, it was kind of a slap in the face that my bf wasn’t invited. Because there is nto one single other Bridesmaid or Best Man that has a significant other that would even attend, I would be the only exception.
Additionally, 2 groomsmen are married, and their wives were invited.
Am I wrong to be hurt?