Post # 1
I know it’s customary to invite any out of town guests to the rehearsal dinner, but ALL of our guests will be from out of town. Do we still have to invite them all? Or can we just keep it to the wedding party and immediate family? Is that rude?
Post # 3
Don’t invite them all, that’d be crazy. If you want you could have a “Welcome Party” after the rehearsal dinner for all out-of-town guests. Perhaps just host it at the hotel bar where most are staying? But I don’t think you need to be buying drinks, just phrase it as a “meet and greet” people can come say hi, hang out for a bit, etc etc – but you don’t need to feel obligated to pay for everything.
Post # 4
It is not rude to keep it just to the wedding party and immediate family. If anyone asks, just let them know that it is a rehearsal and you want the details of the ceremony to be a surprise to anyone that asks.
Post # 5
We are in the same situation. We are keeping the rehearsal to wedding party and immediate family members.
Post # 6
You do not need to invite them no. There is no set rule that says you have to for the Rehearsal dinner.
Post # 7
It is not “customary” to invite all Out of Town guests to the rehearsal dinner. Just because you read about some couples doing this, does not make it the norm.
Your guests know that they have accepted an invitation to an Out of Town wedding. They knew when they accepted that they would incur costs for travel, accomodation and meals.
Post # 8
Thank you so much ladies!! FI’s grandparents have been going on and on about how out-of-town guests are always invited to the rehearsal dinner. They want everything to be so traditional, it’s killing me!
Post # 9
I’m having a domestic destination wedding so all of my guests will be out of town as well. I’m only having immediate family (or considered family) and bridal party at mine!
Post # 10
@missyjane77: FYI, a traditional wedding did not involve inviting Out of Town guests to the rehearsal dinner. This is a fairly recent trend. I can almost guranteed that it did not happen at either parents’ or grandparents’ weddings.
Post # 11
@julies1949: Awesome! Thank you for that tidbit of info! 🙂
Post # 12
We don’t have very many Out of Town guests but we’re not inviting any of them to the Rehearsal Dinner, with the exeption of our grandmothers. Actually, of all of the weddings that either Fiance or I have been in, not a single one included the Out of Town guests in the Rehearsal Dinner. Maybe it’s a regional thing but it seems like something that’s not really done in my area.
Post # 13
I agree with the other posters, and I am also in a similiar situation with a large amount of Out of Town guests. We are keeping it just to the bridal party, immediate family, and other very close family members. I don’t think there is any expectation of getting invited to certain events. Invite who you want and have a lovely evening!
Post # 14
We have an issue that we are only having 60 ppl and 28 of them are family and over 40 total will be from out of town – so if we do a rehersal dinner it is going to be extensive. We are really struggling with what do we do. Our bridal party is tiny – we each have 1 attendant so we are thinking immediate family only but that seems rude too
Post # 15
We’re in the same situation. We’re only having the wedding party and immediate family. We’re then planning to have a meet and greet at a bar after dinner (not paying for the drinks though). I think that’s reasonable.
Post # 16
No way 🙂 Keep it as small as you want! and if they insist on something – have them foot the bill for a welcome party 🙂