- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
Hello all! We’re in the process of planning our wedding and, therefore, rehearsal dinner. Both parents are contributing to the wedding, and we are paying a large portion of the wedding expenses as well. For the rehearsal, my parents wanted to contribute some for their part since they aren’t paying for the whole wedding. They think that if they aren’t being “traditional” and paying for the whole wedding, then they shouldn’t make my FIL be “traditional” by paying for the rehearsal dinner.
All of that was settled, but now here is the problem: My family doesn’t have a very big extended family so at the rehearsal it will just be the immediate family plus one set of grandparents (8 of us, including myself). My fiance has many members of their extended family coming, all from out of town. So at the rehearsal dinner, there will be over 50 of just his out of town family members. My family is very shy and reserved and wants to know if it’s okay for them to go to the rehearsal ceremony and then go home to relax afterwords (not go to the dinner). I think that it’s fine, since his family is calling it a “family reunion” anyways, but they are upset that my parents don’t want to come. I have no problem with my family not coming because it will keep them relaxed for the big day, but I think my FIL find it rude. How do I handle this problem so that everyone remains happy?