Post # 1
My fiance and I would like have an informal reharsal dinner. We are on a tight budget and would like to have anyone attending the wedding join us for dinner. But we can’t afford to pay so we would like to have everyone just pay for themselves.
How do I let people know of the informalilty.
P.S. I know this in improper but my fiance’s family is not giving us any money and we just can’t afford to host another dinner other then the wedding.
Post # 3
I have a suggestion, well, two. The first is to tell your parents and his parents that if they wish to join they will have to pay themselves and then tell you Maid/Matron of Honor exactly what you said here and ask her to spread the word. This is not going to be a very comfortable conversation, but if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it.
The second is to host a potluck dinner at whoever’s house that is closest. Send out invites saying telling every to bring their favorite dish or whatever.
We can’t squeeze a rehersal dinner in the budget either, so we are just having our parents (and a few friends since we have no bridal party) over for dinner afterwards.
Post # 4
I second the potluck idea. At one point we toyed with the idea of just doing a ziti bake (lazy-man’s lasagna!). But, if you ARE going to do the restaurant thing… you should just tell your Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man to pass the word. These people should be fairly close friends so they should understand. Those that don’t, obviously haven’t planned a wedding in tough economic times and when they do… will feel like fools.
Post # 5
I thinka pot luck would be a great idea. If you have the space at your house or someone close to you that doesn’t mind. Everyone has a great time and you save money.
Post # 6
I’ve been to 3 pot-luck rehearsal dinners that were held at the groom’s parents house. I thought they were a lot of fun!
Post # 7
LOVE the pot-luck idea!! That sounds like so much fun!
Post # 8
We had a rehearsal dinner/decorating party the evening before the wedding. We decided to decorate the reception building and have a laid back dinner with the wedding party and our families. My mother-in-law made trays of meats, cheeses, fruit and veggies and tons of other goodies. We decorated, drank and had a fun time while killing two birds with one stone. I think a pot luck dinner is a great idea too.
Post # 9
A pot luck is a nice idea but almost everyone is coming from out of town, so I won’t be able to do that.
Post # 10
vixie, a friend of mine had a dinner for everyone and I am sure it was super cheap. They just got big bins of pasta and salad from a local italian restaurant. I doubt it cost much at all and we call had a great time. THey had planned ot have it at home but ended up using the social hall of their church….I think this would be better – if you could do it- if you have so many people coming from out of town. OR you could have a small dinner with your parents and just invite everyone to meet you at a bar or something for drinks afterwards…(we will be hanging out at Bar X if you want to join us!)