(Closed) Rehearsal Dinner

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Who should come to our rehearsal dinner?
    Immediate Family and Wedding Party Only : (22 votes)
    85 %
    Everyone who wants to come (if they pay for their own dish) : (0 votes)
    Other : (4 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 2
    6653 posts
    Bee Keeper

    You should host the people who participated in the rehearsal. If you cant afford to host everyone, I wouldn’t advertise it.

    Maybe a bar/pub meet up after the dinner though? Passed by word of mouth/informal so people know you aren’t hosting it. “We’ll be at Bobs Tavern from 8-10 if you want to come by and say hi!”

    Post # 3
    9691 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Host the people you can afford to host. Don’t invite people and then make them pay thier own way, that’s rude.

    The majority of our guest list was out of town but we didn’t want to host everyone two days in a row, it just wasn’t in our budget. Our rehearsal was our grandparents, immediate family, wedding party, and all SOs of those invited. The rest of our guests all had thier own, fun plans for that night. No one cared that they weren’t invited to the rehearsal, I think they all much preferred getting to do thier own thing.


    Post # 4
    47190 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Invite only those you can afford to host. It would be way too awkward and rude to have some guests having to pull out their wallets and others not.

    Traditionally, the Rehearsal Dinner includes the wedding party and their SO’s, siblings and their SO’s, parents and grandparents. It is noce to invite the OOT’s but not always financially feasible as it would basically duplicate the guestlist for the wedding.One way to include the OOT’s would be to invite them to join you for coffee/dessert at the end of the evening.

    Post # 5
    9174 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    we invited wedding party, most OOT guests who arrived on friday night, and a few special guests (we had a 40 person minimum)

    invite who you want.  but i would not invited people and then tell them to pay their own way.

    you can ask them to join you whereever afterwards for drinks.

    Post # 6
    908 posts
    Busy bee

    We are invited immediate family and wedding party only to dinner. Later in the evening we are having  a less formal welcome reception at the hotel bar which everyone is invited to. We are doing appetizers and a cash bar at the welcome reception. 

    Post # 7
    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    If they are at the rehearsal then they get dinner, exception can be made to grandparents as they fall under immediate family. 

    Post # 8
    1851 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I agree with only inviting people you’re paying for but I like the idea of then having drinks after for everyone. That can be informal and everyone pays their way. 

    Post # 9
    1532 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    How far out of town? We are getting married 2.5 hours away from where we live – it is a fun place to getaway that alot of people in our current city (and FI’s home city, 3 hours away from wedding city) go to for a weekend. I’ve even gone on day trips there. We can’t afford a welcome dinner for everyone (nor could we find a place to accommodate that sie of party), so we are planning on inviting wedding party, their SO’s, immediate family, and anyone who is legitimately traveling from very far away. Talking plane tickets from overseas or several states away.

    Post # 10
    48 posts
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I am getting married out of state and everyone is either driving or flying in. We don’t have a bridal party so we are doing an informal get together in town at a beer garden the night before so we can all hang out. People are welcome to come and go as they please. We won’t be paying for everyone since it’s just a get together and not required to come. 

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