Post # 1
Hi! Did anyone invite all of their wedding guest’s to the rehearsal dinner/ welcome reception?
If yes, about how many people came vs the wedding? Would you invite everyone again or keep it small?
I love the idea of something causal with bocce ball, and a food truck or live paella. Sadly, my future Mother-In-Law wants a 4-course meal with 40-50 people. Trying to weigh the pros and cons.
We are inviting 230 to the wedding. We have 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen, and about half the wedding is coming from out of town.
Thanks for your advice!
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
For our rehearsal dinner we only invited our bridal party, our parents and our grandparents.
Post # 3
We invited everyone because all were out of town eta. If they had arrived already they were there. But we only had 34 guests to begin with. I truly don’t understand the idea that a rehearsal dinner has to be just as fancy as the wedding. A dour course stuffy meal sounds awful compared to what you want to do. If your mom is paying it’s her choice though…
Post # 4
We invited everybody and about 95% attended. We had a BBQ at an old roadhouse. People loved it.
Post # 5
TBH I dont see the point of inviting everyone to the rehearsal dinner. Its like having 2 receptions. We invited our bridal party + SOs, immediate family and a few others that were staying in the villa with us (since theyd be eating dinner anyways). The rehearsal DINNER is just to feed the people who assisted during the rehearsal and thank them for taking the time out of their day to do so.
FWIW I think your idea of a food truck and backyard bocce sounds lovely.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2019 - Baltimore, MD
We get married next May, and are only inviting 21 people to the rehearsal dinner, out of an estimated 115 wedding guests. The 21 people includes our bridal party, their SOs and kids, and each of our immediate families.
Post # 7
Since my Mother-In-Law was so thoughtful enough to want to host our rehearsal dinner, we did it her way for the actual dinner: just immediate family, bridal party, those in the ceremony, and their SOs if applicable. It was actually really nice to get that time with them and thank them especially for the special role they played in our marriage ceremony & wedding day. (Also, if she is hosting, she does get a significant say).
Something I will recommend to you: Since we had so many out of towners, and I never get to see my extended family much so I was a bit bummed about missing extra time with them, our compromise was to, after the rehearsal dinner, extend an open invite to all of our guests to meet us at a local brewery for a drink and to say hi. It worked wonderfully! We got to visit with so many people, thank those who had traveled so far, and since it closed at 10 we were guaranteed an early night (but those who wanted to continue the celebration could do so on their own), but we also were able to have the special, intimate celebration with those closest to us prior. Just something to consider 🙂
Post # 8
We hosted all the out-of-town guests along with close friends and family as it was the first time extended family would be meeting. If your Future Mother-In-Law is hosting this is her event and her decision. Ideally she would take your wishes into consideration but if she’s not a bocce and food truck kind of lady you’ll have to smile and do it her way or plan and pay for your own rehearsal dinner.
Post # 9
We had a small-ish rehearsal dinner (about 45 guests), which was our immediate families, wedding party + SOs, and our aunts & uncles. Our original plan was to host about 30 guests, which would have excluded our aunts & uncles, but it was important to my husband’s mom to invite her sisters, so we adapted. We had about 135 attend our wedding.
My parents hosted a welcome party after the rehearsal dinner in a restaurant adjacent to our hotel, which was awesome. It gave me a chance to see my cousins, friends who traveled in for the wedding and spend more time with my aunts and uncles. They served beer, wine and margaritas, and had a few snacks out (although not many people ate).
Post # 10
I can’t tell you how pleased I am we don’t seem to have these in the UK!
Post # 11
sarfin914 : That sounds like a great way to do it. janelb19 : Can you and your Fiance host a casual meet-up after FMIL’s formal dinner?
Post # 12
jillsgills : They are usually a lot of fun, and even when formal are more relaxed and than the actual wedding.
Post # 13
Our rehearsal dinner had everyone in the wedding, their SO’s, and some grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins came. The rehearsal and dinner was on Thursday (wedding was Sunday) so none of the out of town guests had actually flown in at that point otherwise they’d have been invited.
We had 30-35 at the rehearsal dinner and 100 at the wedding.
Post # 14
Trust me, inviting everyone makes it feel like there will be 2 receptions. For our rehearsal dinner, we invited parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and first cousins on my side and they all showed up. It ended up totaling around 55 people. Our wedding had about 150-160.
TBH, we were originally going to have the RH dinner in the back yard of my aunt and uncles house, hence why we invited all the aunts and uncles, but once we decided to move the location, we couldn’t just suddenly uninvite everyone.